Q1111. How do you know you are not kidding yourself?

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How do you know that you are not kidding yourself if there is no ‘earthly’ and mutual evidence on the part of your twinflame? That he even wants to see you even then? He has been in a relationship for a few months, but the months in which I sent him a message (for the relationship), he just as well made an excuse or didn’t reply not to see me.

Answer 1
I also realize that it is about fear, did not try to send him too much (once every so many months). Anyway: if the recognition took place anyway (at the meeting this was clearly the case and mutually), I sometimes wonder why one person is constantly worried about it (me) and the other just a relationship can start with someone else … (I would constantly make the comparison – and especially feel – and feel that it really isn’t right). I now try to let my feeling for him just be there, allow myself to love him without more, but I still find it strange how the experience can be very different for both of them …
(Unknown)

Answer 2
Here is a second answer to my own question, but I want to be honest: I have seen it twice (of which once I expressed my feelings as ‘a big crush’), but at 20 months that feels very little. So far the conversation with myself . So … all comments are welcome!
(Unknown)

Answer 3
You know everything very well inside. But your ego talks about it with learned fears, old reaction patterns, and makes it so difficult to listen to your inner voice. If you can let it become completely silent inside, you might hear it. First release all fear. If your twinflame does not want to see you, from that side perhaps only negative signals come. If you analyze it, it may look different. If someone doesn’t even respond to an email, what do you say? It is normal politeness to answer someone you know, or even someone you don’t know. If you don’t do that, you have a reason for it, apart from stupid rudeness (those people also exist): inability to deal with it, fear of your own feelings. If someone is harmless to you, then you can normally deal with that person and you do not have to be treated rudely. If someone always ahw. shouts that he has nothing with you, so that is not true, otherwise there was no shouting like that. What is it to say soberly that he wants nothing with you, does not love you (anymore), has never loved you, that it was a mistake, you name it – then he is done with. But that does not happen, is probably because he does not get it from his b .. The best way to deny your twinflame is to enter into a relationship with someone else. Report that. And then just hope that the other person picks up the signal, and doesn’t start emailing again and tries to maintain a normal friendship. The person in question cannot handle that. That is too close, and he does not trust himself. So he keeps himself dead. Watch what happens around you. When I had just met my twinflame, I was thrown back and forth for a while between knowing for sure and an unfathomable fear that it was all not true. Fortunately I was flooded with signals that pointed to the twinflame situation. I wrote them down in my diary, and later, if I had a weak moment, could look back at what had happened. That has always supported me.
(Arundash)

Answer 4
How do you know if that person is your twinflame, why do you think so? I myself received “proofs” in the form of all kinds of signs and also statements from my twinflame, so that was very clear. But if nothing comes from him or from the universe at all, I fear that it might be in your head and that it may not be.
(Unknown)

Answer 5
You both know that you have a connection with each other. You can see that in the dreams that you have had together. And that you feel each other strongly. Also because of the signs that come your way and when you have had the very hard process that you have had her constantly in jopu head then you know you really hear it. There does not always have to be an earthly contact that the other person can also be happy in an earthly relationship with someone else.
(Remco)

Answer 6
@ 3 Wow Arundash, how do you do this again and again? Your answers are so 100% applicable to me that I have tears in my eyes. Recognition everywhere. You are absolutely right. I know that my twinflame knows that running away / denying and entering into a different relationship. And again and again, with every relationship he enters into (and there have been quite a few in recent years) I know “it is not for him”. And that feeling does not come from jealousy or my own desire for him, but from a deep inner knowing. And again and again I am right, after a few months it is over and he says that it was not true, that he was never really in love. And every time he says this, he looks me in the eye as if he wants to say “you are my true one”. The latter is true, I am his twinflame, and we both know that. But we cannot do anything with it now in the form of a love affair. I understand so well how that frustrates him and that also the actions of running away, denial and radio! silence. But every time after such a period he comes to my senses and contacts me. That happened again and it confirmed to me that I am never out of his heart. That science alone makes me so happy. I hear it in the small things that he says, it is in the small gestures he makes, the accidental subtle touches, the sweet looks but also in his absence on certain occasions, weeks of silence between us, small teasing that still have a more serious side to have. All that and the signals that I also get tell me that he and I belong together, it’s just not the time yet. And that is very difficult now and then. Also for me. Because in addition to the desire that I can now handle fairly well, I sometimes also suffer from a feeling of guilt towards my partner. At the same time I know that I am dealing with two different loves and that I should not feel guilty at all. The love for a twinflame is something that I don’t! I looked up, that just came and never left. The love for my partner also just came and is still there, but it is less all-embracing than that for my twinflame. The latter is just really unconditional. The love for a twinflame is something that I don’t! I looked up, that just came and never left. The love for my partner also just came and is still there, but it is less all-embracing than that for my twinflame. The latter is just really unconditional. The love for a twinflame is something that I don’t! I looked up, that just came and never left. The love for my partner also just came and is still there, but it is less all-embracing than that for my twinflame. The latter is just really unconditional.
(Unknown)

Answer 7
Soul love brings many emotions. A distance is created out of fear. By entering into a new relationship, a “safe way” is currently being chosen. Your soul love has a lesson to learn in this new relationship whereby your love of love must listen to your own feelings. Give the room to learn the lesson. Know that your feeling is never the same with an “ordinary” relationship. Your soul love naturally comes back on your path out of curiosity.
(Alicia)

Answer 8
@ 6: We will then be in an almost similar situation, I think, I have only drawn from my own experience to the extent that it seemed relevant to the question. And in what you are writing now, I recognize myself again, if you read the signals well, this increases your inner certainty. Can’t hurt to play the devil’s lawyer from time to time, and allow yourself a different interpretation, but it doesn’t always seem to be congruent with all the facts. That’s how you reassure your ego, that’s what you need (while you say to you inwardly: I already told you.)
(Arundash)

Answer 9
So true Arundash! I am in answer 6. Yes, our stories are quite similar. That’s nice. Indeed, sometimes I indeed give the signals the space to have other meanings, but it always turns out that they really are not right. The ego would like that, but it just isn’t. I have had so much confirmation in the last few years that my twinflame is really my twinflame. And I am convinced that he is also starting to discover it. I will be the last to ever talk to him about it. Let him come with it when he’s ready. In addition, not everything has to be said. You just know these kinds of things in your heart and subconscious, and sometimes it comes out in the form of certain words / things that he or I do / a gesture or even just a look. We know.
(Unknown)

Answer 10
Oh yes, this (I am from answers 6 & 9), we were talking about signs and signals. I only realized that in the early 90s, when I just knew my twinflame and didn’t know anything about twinflames, we followed the Twin Peaks series. We always watched that together with a few other people. Twin Peaks … What’s in a name?
(Unknown)

Answer 11
To 9 and 10: Great that Twin Peaks, you will all notice those things. I got the feeling that she was watching the same movies with me at the same time, I got reactions to things that didn’t concern me but her. After a while I got it. I stopped watching TV, it became too difficult. You are a sustainer, I have only known my twinflame for a year and a half. Shows me again how deep the inner security can go.
(Arundash)

Answer 12
Hi Arundash, yes, we are sure we can hold on, my twinflame and I have known each other for 21 years now, the first years of which went into total ignorance. We got along very well, we understood each other back then, even though we were very young. And after about three years I fell in love with him. I was completely happy when I saw him. The following years it moved a little to the background because we both had a very busy life, but the love remained, always. I felt more and more guilty towards my partner, although nothing improper happened. At the last minute from 2009 to 2010 it became clear to me (because of many signs and coincidences) that this is a twinflame. I completely immersed myself in it, read everything about the subject and recognized almost everything. This applied to us. In the meantime I have received many signs from my twinflame that he also knows that we share something special. But I can’t get away from this relationship that I have now. H! it is not yet time. I have, however, asked the universe to strengthen the bond between us, and that happens! I don’t know what happens to me, but we have more contact, he shows me his true face more, and vice versa. So there is movement. There is also still distance at times but it is necessary to sink everything separately from each other. I feel it is moving in the right direction! I don’t know what happens to me, but we have more contact, he shows me his true face more, and vice versa. So there is movement. There is also still distance at times but it is necessary to sink everything separately from each other. I feel it is moving in the right direction! I don’t know what happens to me, but we have more contact, he shows me his true face more, and vice versa. So there is movement. There is also still distance at times but it is necessary to sink everything separately from each other. I feel it is moving in the right direction!
(Unknown)

Answer 13
Yes, what a story … and finally a positive development, that’s nice. Here it is the other way around, my twinflame just wanted to get away, apparently couldn’t handle it anymore even though we didn’t even have a relationship. Never really talked about this subject, but I noticed that something special was going on. It soon became taboo to talk about it. Also read everything about the subject, it kept coming at me, all just to understand what was happening and what I had to do with it. The positive effect on my life is that I gained momentum and everything started moving. It can just be kept up to date, and I can say that I am fully alive again. My feelings have of course not changed at all. It has become more and more unconditional. And my certainty from childhood that she had to exist is only confirmed and strengthened. Although I now completely let go where this goes.
(Arundash)

Reply 14
@Answer 13: have you spoken to each other that something special was going on? I think letting go of everything and seeing what it turns out to be the best. I do that too. There are times when we hardly see or speak to each other. I think a lot about him and I get a lot of signs from him (see his name everywhere, and other things that refer to him or us).
(Unknown)

Reaction
I am writing a little bit here to supplement my story, maybe it will help somebody. So I wished that the bond between twinflame and me would become stronger and my wish be granted. He has been contacting me more often lately, and although the content of the conversations remains superficial, I sometimes hear other things between the lines. It is also a constant balancing for him because for him this is also a complicated situation that involves many interests. I hope that with time, more transparency and honesty will be added to our contact, that we can just say to each other later that we really like each other. What is wrong with that? People can love each other. Well, and I love him. My husband recently gave me a very special “gift”. We were talking about a new love when one was dead, and he then said he would understand if I would come together with my twinflame … I didn’t know what I was hearing. Then he must love me very much and also know that I love my twinflame as well as him. (Unknown)