Alicia

My twinflame did not learn his lesson and went the ego way. He wanted to let his ego caress, fled from his feelings for me. Twinflame gets another partner when he / she is not ready yet, etc. My twinflame literally had to have intimacy with someone else in order to be able to compare the feeling between me and others. The end result is that he is madly in love with me. I want to accept that this life lesson has been necessary, lust is not love either. Yet I have some difficulty because he has been intimate with others. Doubt whether I would draw the line, but then I lower myself while I am or want to be the strong side. Have you ever experienced someone? And how processed?

Answer 1
I understand you, sit / sat in about the same situation. I deliberately kept relationships at a distance, because I knew that I would still go 100% for twinflame. He, on the other hand, chose the first one that was easy to get, just to have someone (including ego and not heart). He already knew me then, but did not go through fire for me. Now he is getting a divorce and he wants me after all (we don’t have anything yet). I am happy that I did not start relationships for ‘have’ like him, but remained true to my own feelings. I now know that I can remain true to myself even in difficult situations, which is a very good sense. If I had done it, it would not have made me happy. Well I also have to say that I have always known that he and I would come together again, so then that is of course easier to maintain, although I sometimes had some doubts. Once, years ago, I felt how my twinflame had sex with his wife, from his perspective. I felt that he first had to make an effort to project that she was sweet on the spot, only then could he have sex with her to his satisfaction. It did not flow automatically between them. That intimacy was therefore partly a creation. True, a creation in which he remained a firm believer for a long time, but still. So I think so: real intimacy between twinflame and you can never take someone away from you, no matter how often they have performed such a play with another. My twinflame only had a lesson to learn about the difference between real and fake. He would never have wanted his wife if he knew what he knows now, so basically he is just as critical. So you don’t have to compensate for that by doing the same! You are on the same wavelength anyway. Maybe tomorrow you will do something weird that he thinks: well, how stupid! And ask yourself later how you could have been so stupid. So don’t start copying other people’s mistakes if you have already learned the corresponding lesson yourself. That would be stupid. Everyone’s situation is slightly different again, but I hope you can agree with the above. (Unknown) So you don’t have to compensate for that by doing the same! You are on the same wavelength anyway. Maybe tomorrow you will do something weird that he thinks: well, how stupid! And ask yourself later how you could have been so stupid. So don’t start copying other people’s mistakes if you have already learned the corresponding lesson yourself. That would be stupid. Everyone’s situation is slightly different again, but I hope you can agree with the above. (Unknown) So you don’t have to compensate for that by doing the same! You are on the same wavelength anyway. Maybe tomorrow you will do something weird that he thinks: well, how stupid! And ask yourself later how you could have been so stupid. So don’t start copying other people’s mistakes if you have already learned the corresponding lesson yourself. That would be stupid. Everyone’s situation is slightly different again, but I hope you can agree with the above. (Unknown) but I hope you can find in the above. (Unknown) but I hope you can find in the above. (Unknown)

Answer 2
But dear Alicia, you can’t expect someone to have never been intimate with someone else before you? When you are an adult, it makes sense that you both had a life before you came together. I understand what you mean by your question. But it doesn’t feel that way to me. My twinflame does exactly the same, knows in my heart and soul that I am IT but runs away, numbs his feelings in every possible way and is dissolute with regard to sexual relations. He just has a girlfriend with whom it seems to be a little more serious. Yes, sometimes it doesn’t feel nice. But what right to speak do I have? I’m also in bed with my husband, do I also have a sex life? That is just as difficult for twinflames. I believe that through all those relationships he grows, learns what he misses, and where he can find it. I’ve already learned this, but I don’t have the opportunity to step out of my current relationship. I really love my husband and children too much for that. But I know that someday there will come when twinflames and I find each other. Maybe not in this life. Have you never had a relationship before? (Unknown)

Answer 3
Alicia, how intimate is intimate? Is there a rule for that? “Integrity does not need rules” (Albert Camus) (Wieweet)