Unknown
A long time ago I met my soul love. Everything was immediately intense: recognition, intensity, intense emotions, attraction and repulsion, feeling of unconditional love. All that was mutual. I didn’t know what was happening, couldn’t place things, thought I was in love, and then realized that it was about pure love. My life is turned upside down, so is my relationship and I can no longer control myself. Feeling is running off with me. We currently give each other love as it fits and can live in the lives we currently live. However, there is one major problem. I cannot let go of my soul love. Thinking of my soul love and constantly wanting to share experiences and emotions controls my life in such a way that I am currently losing sight of family, friends, work and my own life. This can no longer continue and what I have to do is let go and come back to myself. That release does not work, so I cannot get back to myself. I want to let go in such a way that I can lead my life back without putting my soul love aside, because that is certainly a wealth in my life that I do not want to give up. Exchanging love and wisdom, sharing experiences is a very nice feeling. I read a lot about letting go on this website, but I find few concrete tips in that regard. How can you get your soul love out of your head in such a way that thinking and talking to this one person no longer controls your life, but you can just be quiet and peaceful? How can you work on this in a very concrete and practical way without having the feeling that all warmth disappears between your soul love and you? How can you make your emotions less dependent on contact with your soul love?
Answer 1
Have you already looked at: 11 tips for the process of letting go of your soul love on this website (Tiny)
Answer 2
I experience for myself that it is an impossible task because we always visit EVERYONE, we do it consciously and that is what we want, it is becoming more and more beautiful . But then letting go becomes very difficult I think and maybe that is not the intention, enjoying the contact that is there and continuing to breathe, asking the universe for help, trusting and resigning that it is good as it is and as it’s coming. Trust in yourself, that you make the right decisions … patience and trust, the toughest lessons. Love (Unknown)
Answer 3
Wonderful tips Tiny, I know them, apply them and yet, if you are both ready and you are in the middle of it, it is quite difficult to deal with in everyday life, you have to accept and resign yourself, much more not you, but it is difficult … on a soul level you are permanently (consciously) together and that is very double and almost incompatible in a normal earthly existence in which you live separately, my experience. (F.)
Answer 4
The 11 tips are about what letting go means. I know that very well. But it does not answer the question: how do you do that? The 7 tips are also so little concrete, I think. For example, it says: do not be dependent on your soul love. (Agreed, but how?) Or it says: learn to let go. (What is everything? And how do you do that? Is everything also your current relationship?) Or the tip: undertake. (What if you can enjoy just about anything else you undertake except if they are things that you do with your soul love.) This is the problem: how can you get your soul love out of your head in such a way that thinking of and talking to this one person no longer controls your life, but you can just be quiet and peaceful under it? (Unknown)
Answer 5
When we are too busy with our Soul Love (clinging), we sometimes forget that we also have to go through a daily routine. An example is that someone wants to see his Soul Love every day, every minute of the day but for example forgets that the household must also be done. It is part of the process that we know how to experience balance with the daily routine and our Soul Love. The continuous thinking of the other indicates, in my opinion, that you are currently in a “rejection process” and that something still needs to be “solved / learned”. Have you (unconsciously) distanced yourself from your Soul love without talking about this? Your soul love will notice like no other that it is being taken away. The other can build a fear because the distance has been taken and can see this in other situations. Talking to each other is very important to create a balance together and so that fears cannot be admitted. The rest comes naturally afterwards (Alicia S.)
Answer 6
Alicia, you write: “Continually thinking of the other indicates in my opinion that you are currently in a” rejection process “and that there is still something to be” resolved / learned “.” What is your experience on this plane? To what extent does “disposal” have to do with “still to learn”? Indeed, there is still a lot to learn from both of us. (Unknown)
Answer 7
For me, being independent of your twinflame means working on yourself. If you do not learn to return to your true self, you will always need that other person and you become dependent on it. At the moment you are left with all kinds of feelings and you still have to make the separation of what belongs to your twinflame and what belongs to you. You must learn to fully accept the other as they are, this way you learn to look at your own negative sides, and learn to find your own positive sides again. Everything is in yourself, but in the beginning that is still unclear, so that you keep looking for it in the other person. Take as a basis what you were like before you met your twinflame! (Sanne)
Answer 8
@Answer 4: Hopefully I can help you a bit with this. You ask how you can be independent of him. You do this by basing your daily activities, your choices, your opinions, etc. on your OWN opinion. Stop thinking in terms like, “what would HE do in this case?” because that doesn’t matter. You are important, you are number 1, not him. And that is also what is meant by letting go. It sounds very definitive, but it is not at all. Letting go is nothing more than being completely focused on yourself, on your own everyday troubles and your own friends. Being able to do things without constantly thinking about him, without wondering what he is doing now. That is really a very difficult road, but one that must be gone. Someone also wrote that continuous thinking of the other is a sign that one is in the phase of rejection. That is recognizable, because it is precisely when you have completely returned to yourself and you know 100% why you do the things you do! t likes it again, then the attention of the other person comes back to you like attracted by a magnet. But even then the trick is not to respond too eagerly to it. Success! (Unknown)
Reaction
@ answers 7 and 8: I have a lot of benefits for your reactions. I can do something with that. Very nice, thank you. Yet another question: what is good to do, what helped you to put that focus back on your daily life? To do? Are you busy with those things? For example, how can you keep your attention 100% with your dear friends and family. How can you be 100% busy with your hobby, which you have always loved? How can you make plans back, plans purely for yourself and plans with others? Or how can you banish the thoughts for a moment? (Unknown)
Answer 9
To Sanne, that last sentence would definitely not work for me! I just don’t want to go back to the situation I was before I met my twinflame, don’t think about it, I finally found myself. I was always someone who gladly took advice from others, always thought only of the interests of others and forgot myself. Always pissing and if someone criticized me I was very concerned. Now I know who I am, what I stand for and nobody can talk to me about a complex. In doing so, of course, I respect the “normally accepted” norms and values, but otherwise no one can get me upset (apart from twin sometimes: p, but that gets better all the time) Twin is part of my life at soul level and yes ,, also very nice). Accepting that it is as it is is the only concrete tip for me. Lots of love! (F.)
Answer 10
Reaction to answer 9: I don’t think it’s about the situation you don’t want to return to. Before you met your twinflame, you also did everything independently, it was also your own decisions, regardless of whether you made a good or a bad decision. You didn’t need that dependence on your twinflame because it wasn’t in the picture yet. Now that your twinflame is in your life, you learn to know the power in yourself and become more aware of yourself. For the questioner: Thank you for having helped me with my answer. On your 2nd question: Learn to stay close to yourself, Become aware of your feelings. You have a masculine side and the feminine side. The moment I go too far with my feminine side (emotional level), my male side ensures that I go back to my basis of balance. And sorry but the connection between you and your twinflame is a permanent one. Learn to accept that he is present with you. The more you push it away, the harder it comes back. Give yourself time to deal with this. (Sanne)
Answer 11
To the person asking the question: I am the person in answer 8 and I would like to respond to your question about how you can focus on yourself. I personally do that by seeing the world as it is. I was a huge dreamer, but since I realize that there is no response from my ‘love’, I have landed again, it seems. So I see everything again without those pink glasses, I have an eye for reality again, I am able to stay very close to my feelings, so that I can do the everyday things again from my own perspective and I am not busy long after think about how that could possibly come across to him. It is the awareness of your own power, your own greatness. It is discovering that you are actually enormously free in your choices and in everything you want to undertake. And it is also doing things with your full attention. And that feels almost meditative. This sentence can help you concentrate when, for example, you are washing the dishes: “When I do the dishes, I do the dishes! And doing the dishes is more than enough. ”Repeat this for yourself if you stray too much. You will see that you can suddenly focus again on the feeling of the warm water, the smell of the detergent, etc. In short, you are back in the here and now! In the beginning it is probably still difficult, but if you persist, you will see that it helps and it becomes more routine. Also, remember that there is only one person for whom you do this: yourself! Good luck. (Unknown) You will see that you can suddenly focus again on the feeling of the warm water, the smell of the detergent, etc. In short, you are back in the here and now! In the beginning it is probably still difficult, but if you persist, you will see that it helps and it becomes more routine. Also, remember that there is only one person for whom you do this: yourself! Good luck. (Unknown) You will see that you can suddenly focus again on the feeling of the warm water, the smell of the detergent, etc. In short, you are back in the here and now! In the beginning it is probably still difficult, but if you persist, you will see that it helps and it becomes more routine. Also, remember that there is only one person for whom you do this: yourself! Good luck. (Unknown)