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My question to you is whether you have ever been exposed to an enormous reality check? I will explain my own experience as concisely as possible. Last week I saw my soul love again after three quarters of a year. From a distance, because he gave a performance. During the period that I did not see him, I lived in a dream world, it now appears. The fact that I recognized him as my soul love must undoubtedly also be his reality. My days consisted of almost non-stop daydreams, romantic pictures in my head etc. After the performance last week, I wanted to talk to him, but that just didn’t happen. I was a bit disappointed and then immediately convinced that it was fine, because then he would contact me. After all, we had eye contact several times during the performance and we laughed at each other. It could not have been otherwise that he enjoyed seeing me as much as I did him? The next day something gnawed at me and I felt very strongly that he would not contact me. If I wanted something from him, then surely it was up to me to take action? I can’t possibly read his mind? That day I sent him a short message asking if we could have a drink together soon. No reaction. That was the moment when the penny finally fell with me. The absence of his reaction is the ultimate mirror! The realization that he apparently doesn’t need to contact me. I now see that I have been focusing on him all the time, forgetting myself. I have completely lost myself in my crush, which turns out to be pure projection. Because by focusing all my attention on him, I don’t have to face myself. All this time I have also idealized it very much. Suddenly I am very aware that facing myself is the intention! I really wanted to see him and now that that has happened, I know that it was necessary to gain this insight. At the moment I even wonder if a relationship is the intention of the whole situation. Soul love is an opportunity to learn to love yourself again. Suddenly I see how wonderful it is to no longer be dependent on him, to live my own life and to see how great I can be because of the newly acquired autonomy! Really, it is not he who will complete my feeling of happiness. He is not going to complete my life either. It is impossible to hold him responsible for my happiness, because I am responsible for that myself. It is as if I have descended from my dream world into the reality of everyday life. And because I can see myself again, more and more aware of my own place in the world, I see that life is much nicer if you live with both feet on the ground. My soul love is my soul love because he confronts me with myself again. And this time I am going to face that confrontation. This time I will learn my lessons. Finally, I want to give everyone a tip: Take action if you want something from your soul love, if possible. Don’t keep waiting for action from his / her side. Because that is waiting for something that may never come. Life is really too short for that and don’t forget that your experience of this love is not necessarily the experience of the other! That sounds negative, but it is a possibility. You do not know that the other person is his / her soul love, unless the other person also acknowledges it. Granting this to myself is already a liberation in itself. I also wish those who have the feeling of living in a dream world a good reality check, so that a world opens up for you! It is finally me-time for all of us.
Answer 1
This is the twinflame love that transcends duality. I agree with everything you’ve written. (Unknown)
Answer 2
I recognize what you describe here. It comes down to having to go all the way back to the basics of yourself. Just what you write, perform the reality check. I have done this for the last few weeks. Last Tuesday I was invited by my twin. During our conversation I saw him the way he really was. Because of this, I also discovered that I must remain realistic to him. Reality has opened my eyes to the fact that his stubbornness has the upper hand in his daily life. A fact that has arrived well in my life and has freed me from a dream that is not there. The strange thing is that he is now the one trying to pull in his direction. (Unknown)
Answer 3
I regularly get a reality check, but don’t lose my faith about my twin. Because he is my twinflame is clearer to me than anything in the world. That may sound strange, but it is true. That you never know exactly how the other person feels and looks at the relationship is true. Although I have to say that I also feel that way. And I am so realistic to see that he does not see me as a possible woman to start a relationship with now and for many years to come. For years I have cherished a certain dream image of this man like you, and with that you indeed walk away from the person that you are yourself. But two years ago the change came, I was apparently ready to look at myself and him clearly as an adult woman. Then I saw that he is still the man of my dreams and, above all, my other half. But I suddenly saw him as he really is. So with! all its plus-and-minus points. And despite everything and despite his sometimes repulsive behavior, the love I feel is totally unconditional. He can do whatever he wants, but I will continue to love him. Understand all his actions, and his thoughts. Finally, now that I am in my 30s, I know what life is. Who I am and that everything is as it is and as it is going to be. I know your sense of rejection and being thrown back on yourself. That hurts, and it makes you grow. Sometimes you notice that much later. Of course it is the intention of soul love to face yourself, develop yourself and enrich the world enormously with your love. But there is that other one too, that you once idealized and that you feel has now been done away with. Time will tell you if he is your twinflame. If that is the case, as with me, then you will automatically find out. Are you going to look at it realistically but lovingly? And then you feel what soul love is especially: unconditional love. Nothing is better than that. You are then no longer dependent on the other person, but the other person is welcome in your life at any time. And if he doesn’t come, it’s fine too. The other way around as well. My soul love is not yet as far as I am in the process and is a lot more unconscious. But I am very sure that he, too, is developing, and is sailing along on my development. For that alone I do everything I can to fully live my life and to translate the love I feel for him to all other people in my vicinity. Transferring a piece of love to the world so that it becomes a little more beautiful. I think that is one of the goals of soul love. The ultimate goal is an amalgamation of two halves of the soul, but that is a very far advanced stage for which I still do not consider myself ripe. That may take several more lifetimes, I fear. But I’m on the right track. And you too. You have made an important discovery and if you stay close to yourself, everything will end up as intended. It is true that another person cannot make you happy. You have to do that yourself. But the other person can complete it. Twinflames complement each other. That is fireworks, passion, and more. Provided both are ready, otherwise it is one-sided (with me now too) and sometimes painful. But it will be fine. All the best. (Unknown) I think that is one of the goals of soul love. The ultimate goal is an amalgamation of two halves of the soul, but that is a very far advanced stage for which I still do not consider myself ripe. That may take several more lifetimes, I fear. But I’m on the right track. And you too. You have made an important discovery and if you stay close to yourself, everything will end up as intended. It is true that another person cannot make you happy. You have to do that yourself. But the other person can complete it. Twinflames complement each other. That is fireworks, passion, and more. Provided both are ready, otherwise it is one-sided (with me now too) and sometimes painful. But it will be fine. All the best. (Unknown) I think that is one of the goals of soul love. The ultimate goal is an amalgamation of two halves of the soul, but that is a very far advanced stage for which I still do not consider myself ripe. That may take several more lifetimes, I fear. But I’m on the right track. And you too. You have made an important discovery and if you stay close to yourself, everything will end up as intended. It is true that another person cannot make you happy. You have to do that yourself. But the other person can complete it. Twinflames complement each other. That is fireworks, passion, and more. Provided both are ready, otherwise it is one-sided (with me now too) and sometimes painful. But it will be fine. All the best. (Unknown) but that is a very far advanced stage that I still don’t think myself ripe for. That may take several more lifetimes, I fear. But I’m on the right track. And you too. You have made an important discovery and if you stay close to yourself, everything will end up as intended. It is true that another person cannot make you happy. You have to do that yourself. But the other person can complete it. Twinflames complement each other. That is fireworks, passion, and more. Provided both are ready, otherwise it is one-sided (with me now too) and sometimes painful. But it will be fine. All the best. (Unknown) but that is a very far advanced stage that I still don’t think myself ripe for. That may take several more lifetimes, I fear. But I’m on the right track. And you too. You have made an important discovery and if you stay close to yourself, everything will end up as intended. It is true that another person cannot make you happy. You have to do that yourself. But the other person can complete it. Twinflames complement each other. That is fireworks, passion, and more. Provided both are ready, otherwise it is one-sided (with me now too) and sometimes painful. But it will be fine. All the best. (Unknown) everything ends up as intended. It is true that another person cannot make you happy. You have to do that yourself. But the other person can complete it. Twinflames complement each other. That is fireworks, passion, and more. Provided both are ready, otherwise it is one-sided (with me now too) and sometimes painful. But it will be fine. All the best. (Unknown) everything ends up as intended. It is true that another person cannot make you happy. You have to do that yourself. But the other person can complete it. Twinflames complement each other. That is fireworks, passion, and more. Provided both are ready, otherwise it is one-sided (with me now too) and sometimes painful. But it will be fine. All the best. (Unknown)
Answer 4
Me-time for all of us? I think it is wonderful that you feel liberated and have come to insight, but you cannot use your experience of a possible soul love as a ‘template’ for everyone’s experience. Moreover, I do not believe in soul love that is not mutual / does not come from two sides. You may love someone / be in love with someone who does not answer that, but he / she is not your soul love, but simply an unrequited love. No Wuthering Heights, but also a beautiful kind of love with a right to exist. But do not confuse a disillusion in love with a soul love too quickly. That does not mean that some people may look critically at their situation, because if there really is no indication of mutual affection / love, even after a while, then I would not start from soul love. Twinflames and / or soulmates always come into contact with each other, no matter what. And they will both always find that they like each other and want to get to know each other better. There is a clear click, and so much more. Synchronicity plays a major role, just like inexplicable events; paths cross. It is an inner knowing. Your situation is not really clear to me, you say you wanted to talk to him, but that “did not happen” and then you sent him a message, assume on the internet. Do you know your ‘soul love’ personally? If not, I don’t find it so strange that you don’t hear anything back. And if you know him, then I don’t understand the story completely. You are talking about learning this lesson this time, have you learned this rather than not? In this same situation? Daydreaming and idealizing someone does not make soul love, like twinflames you can get over that very quickly, I mean about ideal images. That is precisely the difference with a ‘normal’ crush / crush. They can also give you a reality check that will put you back on the ground with your feet, if you fall off that pink cloud. A twinflame feels more like a presence, someone who is always there, who feels close to you. Someone who can literally read your mind or feel what you feel. Of course you can also experience ‘butterflies’, which I sometimes have, but that has nothing to do with an ideal image. Despite my criticism, I agree that it is a good idea to find out quickly how the other person sees you. Although that is easier said than sometimes done. People sometimes just avoid such a love. Consciously or unconsciously, or because they are hindered by the circumstances. Life is not that black and white. And soul love is not as simple as you represent it here. Life is sometimes a mess, and love for sure. Not all clear, etc. But I maintain that there must be something ‘mutually strong’. And that you know / get to know the other person. Because otherwise confuse your soul love with a love fantasy. Nothing wrong with that, but it’s just two different things. True soul love is about unconditional love as someone wrote here before, all your life. While you see that other person as he / she really is. All beautiful, beautiful sides, but also the lesser ones, and the much lesser ones. And at the same time you see yourself that way. Soul love means that your life will never be the same as before that encounter, and in my opinion has nothing to do with me-time, but all the more with we-time. If only in your heart / soul. Love for yourself is very important, but unconditional love (I don’t only feel this for my soul love, by the way) is so much more beautiful if you can share it. One way or the other. And I wish everyone that. In all love, Sophie. (Sophie)
Answer 5
Totally agree Sophie, glad you are writing this, it is NOT an illusion .. NOT a fantasy .. but the beautiful TRUTH and it stays with all good and less beautiful sides (Unknown)
Answer 6
Sophie, your words say exactly what I wanted to say and said in my answer 3. Indeed, nothing will ever be the same once you have experienced your soul love. Your world is turned upside down, as well as your self-image and that of the other. But all in good, because that is only positive. I have learned to look at everything much more realistically and see that nothing and nobody is perfect, but at the same time everything is perfect as it is. The story of the questioner sounds as if it is a question of “normal” love and is one-sided. Experience enough with normal love, but soul love is a completely different story. You can’t ignore each other, the universe keeps bringing you back together, and so many coincidences happen that you think you’ve gone mad. At least, this is happening with us now, after years of normal interaction with each other. Then suddenly the penny dropped and the ball started rolling. And it is the most beautiful journey I have ever made and will be allowed to make. Although we are not together (for a long time). Together we are, in our hearts and souls. (Unknown)
Answer 7
I hereby already apologize to those who take offense at the following, because it may not be what they want to hear. It is NOT my intention to offend, but since this is a kind of forum, I do feel free to say what MY thoughts are. @ Answer 4: I am the questioner. There is something of truth in what you say, although I still have to object here and there. Now, a few days later, I have found that my experiences are much like a normal crush. That is how I learned that my enormous development and insights are nobody’s merits except my own. Somehow I don’t see why the man in question could NOT be my soul love, but more about that later. If I look at it very critically and I do it now, I even dare to say that something like soul love — at least in the way that many of us experience it here — may not exist. I am currently reading in ‘The Romantic Misunderstanding’ by writer / philosopher Jan Drost. And I would like to quote from page 172/173 because it made me think: “It’s as if we’ve known the other for a long time. That special, enigmatic, almost magical ‘I feel like I’ve known you for a long time’ indeed indicates familiarity and recognition of something that was already there before we met the other. But that is not a past life, not a primordial unit that has brought us back together after years of lonely scattering. It is our imagination that brings about this experience. The feeling of familiarity and familiarity comes from the fact that we think we recognize our DREAMED and IDEALIZED lover in the other. So it is indeed AS IF you have known the other for a long time, because in your eyes the other looked like the man / woman of your dreams. ”In other words, you do not really see the other as he really is, but you see the other in the context of your own ideal image, however unconscious that may be. Knowing this, you may wonder if you are not thinking of yourself by continuing to hold on to the idea that ‘someday’ will be fine on the basis of … yes what actually? A fusion that, if necessary, does not even take place in our conscious? That is hope and makes hope wait for something that will never come. Sin of my short time here on earth. I understand that this happens quite hard, confronting perhaps, and I know that there will be people who will pervert me for this, but that does not bother me. I do not say it because I think that everyone who does believe in the possibility of merging souls is crazy, but I just want to say that this sobering view of things is also possible. In my case, in any case, because I simply cannot agree with the existence of reincarnation, predestination and for centuries searching, wandering souls with only one goal: fusion. Because that too is something to think about. What is being discussed here is all sincerely beautiful and if many here derive comfort, strength and hope from doing them good, then it is wonderful. But for me it is too much about the divine, the intangible, while in my opinion it must happen here in all its earthly reality. For me, (Souls) love can see yourself and the other as a duality. See who the other person really is, as the person wrote in answer 1 and / or 2. That is indeed what matters. Desire for oneness is the same as denying the other in his / her ‘being different from yourself’. It is about really meeting the other, accepting him as he really is, in all his imperfection. Two never becomes one. It is also the question whether you should want that. Soul love is the invitation to become yourself again, because someone holds up a mirror to you, right? That is what I understand from what Tiny Kanters says about it. In my opinion it is a matter of experiencing yourself as whole again, so that you are no longer dependent on the other’s love / attention. Only when you see yourself as a unit can you see the other as he really is, without those colored glasses. Only then is the other the icing on the cake and therefore he is who he should be: the Other Next to / With You and not the Other In You, because then you deprive the other of his right to exist. Soul love is also not always about an actual (earthly) being together, so why in this case could my love not be my soul love? In turn, I don’t understand that to be honest. I don’t think I have completely misunderstood Tiny’s story about this phenomenon. For me, it simply has no added value to hold on to an (uncertain) event that transcends earthly reality: the merging of my soul with his. Because that may not even happen in this life .. Bales! for me, because in my opinion I only live once. In addition, the question of what am I wearing to this fusion of souls in this earthly life, because what I find more interesting is what is happening here on earth in my life now and not what might, possibly, possibly ever happen on a soul level. Do you know what it is? My colored glasses have slapped me hard and that has a rather sobering effect on me. And I do not regret that in the least. In fact, I find it liberating and the only thing I wanted to say is that I hope that everyone can discover in his / her own way what soul love means for him / her, besides the fact that the intention is to regain your independent self to be. For me, soul love is the same kind of experience as God. What God is to me does not have to be the same as what God is to another believer … and so it is to me with soul love. The principle of it seems clear to me, but apparently I experience it very differently from you, so what ?! I am free to experience it as I experience it. Just as you may think differently than I do. So no hard feelings. PS Yes, I and my (soul) love know each other personally. We even had very nice and regular contact for a while. (Unknown)
Answer 8
I agree with answer 6, idd Soul’s love is much and much different than an ordinary love, it opens all doors in your soul. It is impossible to share it with other people who have not experienced it. Idd, I really have the idea / feeling that they are really working for us up there, that you are being helped on all sides, you just have to want to see it and be positive. You are getting closer to your twinflame, I now have that feeling for myself too. Have a lot of patience, take a rest and be positive! Love (Elselina)
Answer 9
It is a battle between feeling and reason and this morning it was clear to me (again) how things are, the feeling shows you the way and your mind is the tool to carry it out, so eg you want a painting on the wall because you like it and your mind picks a hammer and a nail and carries it out. (Unknown)
Answer 10
I am happy that you can stand up for yourself here, I was sad to read that someone gives an opinion about a story he or she has not been to. I would also like to state that this is a site where people can share their story and, in a certain sense, ask for help and feedback. every story is different, and different, let’s not lose weight and justify each other, never believe that this may be the purpose of this site. so everyone has their own thing, and respect everyone in his or her path. (Unknown)
Answer 11
First to the last unknown; nothing at all sad about it, let’s not start dramatizing it, nobody having to ‘defend’ themselves. And she has also chosen to respond to a public ‘forum’ in addition. But this is not about arguing, it is just a healthy discussion. I never meant it as an attack, and the questioner seems eloquent enough to respond to my reaction in this case. If you see my answer below, you will hopefully understand that.
@ Original questioner: Hello! Well, in the end I did not see your original question / statement as an attack either, but I did experience it as ‘that’s how it is’, when I was a bit abruptly, I felt very appealed to show the other side. And yes, you absolutely have the right to believe what you want. Moreover; wouldn’t want anything else. I think your love / soul love / whatever he is, misses a lot by not wanting to drink something with you, you sound well-read and intelligent, and I mean that. You can defend yourself well, but you see, I was extremely critical of your view because you were extremely critical of mine (indirectly, but still). And that is why I gladly replied to you, just as you also clearly told me what you thought of my reaction. That is only fair. The book you are reading seems extremely interesting to me, but nothing I am interested in at this stage. In the many years that my soul love already lasts I have gone through all stages repeatedly; also those of intellectual statements; to personally end up at the beginning again; this kind of love cannot be explained and you will never get rid of it in this EARTH life. (my experience to be clear) So you quote that book, but also that book was written by a person with his own theory, who might do something similar. has never experienced it in practice. Or maybe so, and then he chooses to explain it that way. More power to him. But that’s just it; his philosophy and now maybe yours too, and that’s nice. You also quote Tiny Kanters, the ‘founding father’ of this site, which is a wonderful initiative, I would like to come. But I also disagree with some of his insights. This of course me! t all respect. But it is his site and of course he also expresses his views here. So I can live well with different ‘viewpoints’. Like I wrote before; life is not that black and white … Unfortunately, you did not go into a few things that I clearly connect with ‘soul love’, namely the things that cannot be explained intellectually, not even through beautiful, rational theories. I have experienced unexplained things with my twin, and they had nothing to do with a so-called conscious or unconscious ideal image of love. Oh no. On the contrary. Didn’t find anything ideal about it. It is the experience of destiny; as if you are stuck to someone whether you want it or not. Others also recognize themselves in this image, hence the responses I received about my response. So how do you explain such matters? I have cases of telepathy where unfortunately every intellectual theory would bite its teeth. I would actually find it very easy as such theori! one for me would be correct, that I could believe in it. Do not know how long your soul love story has been going on, but I do not think as long as mine since you were now at the point of making the contact “concrete.” And that point is already many years ago for me. In any case, I apologize for the fact that I questioned things about your story, whether your love is a soul love or not. But as I said in the beginning; your initial question / reaction was also quite intense and something too ‘so, this is the truth’. But let’s leave that behind, I just welcome the discussion. Brings life to the brewery, certainly nobody wants to attack personally. In fact, this is a philosophical conversation that we will probably never end up with. But you also understand that there are countless other books written that describe ‘soul love’ as a love that goes beyond just being an experience of the human mind. I will not quote all of them. Finally, if you knew my personal story, you’d better understand the slight venom in my initial response, but unfortunately I can’t share that here in all its details. We have a few things in common. I’m curious by nature, so now the question goes through my mind again what happened with the contact between you and your twin and why he did not respond to your request to meet. You don’t have to answer this, after all don’t share my details here. But rejection, in whatever form, naturally hurts. And I am very sorry for that. But he doesn’t know what he’s missing, I think. Well, if you wish all the good things in life and love, if you want that duality, you will certainly get it one day. By the way, I very much agree with that piece of love philosophy. Love of soul or not, in this earthly life you cannot merge with another. And you must always maintain your independence, that seems to be a healthy fact. Just to close! express with the fact that I thought I had a very sober look at these love affairs, but that apparently is not so bad. Others (not just soul lovers) constantly hold up a mirror to us, so do you too with me. I still believe in the inexplicable aspect, because of my own clear experiences I cannot ignore it. Believe in the magical aspect of life in general, so also in love. And although I would like to, I cannot explain or rationalize some things. to resolve. But if you succeed; good for you. After all, everyone’s personal experiences are different. But I also grant you that bit of magic, with whomever. Be it granted to you! (Sophie) I still believe in the inexplicable aspect, because of my own clear experiences I cannot ignore it. Believe in the magical aspect of life in general, so also in love. And although I would like to, I cannot explain or rationalize some things. to resolve. But if you succeed; good for you. After all, everyone’s personal experiences are different. But I also grant you that bit of magic, with whomever. Be it granted to you! (Sophie) I still believe in the inexplicable aspect, because of my own clear experiences I cannot ignore it. Believe in the magical aspect of life in general, so also in love. And although I would like to, I cannot explain or rationalize some things. to resolve. But if you succeed; good for you. After all, everyone’s personal experiences are different. But I also grant you that bit of magic, with whomever. Be it granted to you! (Sophie) After all, everyone’s personal experiences are different. But I also grant you that bit of magic, with whomever. Be it granted to you! (Sophie) After all, everyone’s personal experiences are different. But I also grant you that bit of magic, with whomever. Be it granted to you! (Sophie)
Answer 12
You always carry out the reality check whether you have a twinflame or not. It seems to me that you need the check to be able to stay with yourself, especially with regard to your twinflame. The contact that I now have with my twin will remain strong and powerful without losing myself again. Now I see him as he really is, it is not a beautiful picture but the unconditional love remains tangible between us. I started looking at the twinflame image differently. Now that I am in balance myself; it feels good, I told my twin that I definitely do not want to go back in a relationship with him, despite our unconditional love and the bond that is very strong. I now believe that twinflames should not always be relationships. The way I feel now, no one takes away from me, not even my twin. My twin is my mirror but in the end I am the one who has learned to become independent. I am proud of myself that I now see my twin as he is and learn to cope with his flaws and be sweet! disform. To my environment I have now become stronger, more powerful and softer. My self-confidence has grown. I believe in a reality check my way. To the questioner, yes, what you write is what my experience is like. Anyway, the subject of twinflame will always remain a point of discussion because everyone experiences it differently (Madelein) I believe in a reality check my way. To the questioner, yes, what you write is what my experience is like. Anyway, the subject of twinflame will always remain a point of discussion because everyone experiences it differently (Madelein) I believe in a reality check my way. To the questioner, yes, what you write is what my experience is like. Anyway, the subject of twinflame will always remain a point of discussion because everyone experiences it differently (Madelein)
Answer 13
To the questioner, I see a lot of landmarks in what you write. I still want to pick up on this. To go back to your own base you must first let go of everything, let go of expectations and focus on your own life. In short, release the check. After this process I could feel completely detached from my twinflame. I felt liberated and stable in my feelings. I never thought I could experience this again. Because I let him go, we have grown closer together. He also dares to show me more of his feelings and what his problems are. I leave it entirely in its own worth but draw my line when it crosses it. Our communication is therefore only promoted. This does not mean that we are already completely friends. I do not expect that we will come back together or not, even though our special bond is very strong. And if there is something wrong with him, I feel that very well, but now I can do it no! and concentrate on my thing. I can say for myself that I am pretty well balanced without feeling dependent on my twinflame. Thank you questioner for the reality check reminder. Love (Angelica)
Answer 14
@ Sophie (answer 11) Thank you for your understanding answer. In turn, I want to apologize for the fact that my original question has come across as ‘the truth’, because that is not the way I intended it. As far as I am concerned, we can indeed enter into a discussion in a mature way. That was my intention to trigger. The funny thing is that I now notice that I am in a calmer place. When I wrote my somewhat fierce reaction, I was in a cynical mood. But in the end it was the result of disappointment. Especially in myself, because my love did not meet the expectations and images that I had imprinted on myself. So in fact I am the one to blame. But before I realized that, it was rather easy to lean towards the cynical. Putting the “blame” on him was the way of least resistance. Now that that is over, and with the insights / philosophies of Jan Drost, I am now in a good balance between the extremely spiritual (as in the initial phase) and the extremely rational (as was the case last week). I think both should be able to go together well. My story has been going on for a little more than a year at the moment, because then I met him, but I have only known since December that this was not the kind of crush I had always known before. In the past six months! I made an attempt to let him go completely and suddenly he showed something of himself, even though it was online. That created new hope and I was ‘back to scratch’. And now, now that I am releasing it again, it is raining again signals from which I can conclude that he is not just a man who crossed my path. But at the moment I am in a phase in which I very much desire a focus on myself and my own life. I even see him as a jammer! However, what has permanently changed is my vision of the earthly side of this love. In the beginning, the divine and the earthly were inseparable, I thought. It could not be otherwise, or this had to be an earthly relationship. But I can now separate these two forms of love. Which in itself means that I no longer fixate on him, no longer wait or hope for something that may never come. More than ever I realize that he may not be aware of this fe! nomeen. He is he and I am me. I am now about to accept that there is a physically palpable energy between us when we see each other, but that he is really “the Other” and can therefore have completely different ideas about love. He is also a very intelligent, thoughtful and affectionate man. Faithful too, just like me. But I doubt if he has the same ‘antenna’ as I do for capturing signs and signals. Because that requires a receptive attitude and I don’t think he is open to the concept of soul love. Of course he can have many reasons for not wanting to meet me, who have nothing to do with me personally, but more with practical considerations. I don’t know that either. Previously that was a frustration for me, but now, after reading a large amount of material that encourages thought, I notice that waiting, hoping, romanticizing mainly disappoints me. So no more hopes and waiting for him to take action, because I no longer assume that he will do that. More than ever ! I see that he was my mirror, the invitation to be myself, that he crossed my path the moment I needed him. So for a reason. Seeing him again, but not speaking (we missed each other), was the definitive sign for me that this is the moment to let go. And with that the desire for myself grows, I notice how nice it is to live my life with both feet on the ground. I notice more and more why the focus has to be shifted from him to myself. It is wonderful to reach my full potential and to feel sincerely that I do not need anyone to find that happiness in myself. It is perhaps the realization that I can also do without him, although I previously thought not. It is to know that even without him I have to. It is also the realization that I can be open to everything that is, to everything that can be. With or without him … (Unknown)
Answer 15
@ 14; Hi, I don’t have as much to say as the previous times, but at least I just wanted to tell you that I think you’re on the right track. I really agree with you! It is so important, in spite of everything, to ultimately choose yourself if things are not going as we had hoped. You have gained that insight quickly, I wish you a lot of strength and strength, but I think you will be fine! Your life is important and if soul loved ones ultimately do not want or are unable to do so for whatever reason, we must continue. You are doing well there! (Sophie)