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I know that I cannot banish it from my life (because every time I block a twinflame I get the craziest signs on my path as if he wants to say “I am still here”). But at the moment it all gets too much for me. The twinflame relationship draws too much energy away from me and gives me too much negative energy back. I feel his hangover when he’s been out. I feel how he is constantly hiding and walking away. I barely got around to my own things. So a few days ago I decided to completely block and release my twin for a while. Every time he turns up in my head, I resolutely send him away, in love of course. He has to grow, learn and live, and so do I. I want to progress in my process. I don’t want to see him for the time being, nor hear or read from him. So complete silence. And I am curious what it will bring. In any case, it feels nice, peace of mind.
Answer 1
I recognize that SO clearly !!! I have also wondered lately whether I am suffering from his hangover after walking. Just absurd. Intense fatigue, while I slept well and long. A vague headache that I know doesn’t come from me. Also never have a headache by the way. Little energy while I feel positive about myself. (Like now, for example) I have been sending him away more often lately. Sometimes I really say: “Shall we leave each other alone for now? Come again later. ” And I REALLY feel that it works. Immediately!! Then I can’t think about him for a long time. And that gives idd peace. Rest to recover from this whole event. Because there is very little time left for other things. And I don’t really like that. I’m still busy finding a good balance here. It would also be nice if our twins would not only give NAMEN our energy but also give something BACK. That’s just me again! or 2 happened and I would like to experience that more often. (L.)
Answer 2
Yes I do, and that is also the only thing I want to write / say about it .. rest and lead my own life .. love.
Response Thank you for your understanding. I felt so alone, not anymore! Yes L, it really works, send it away so you get more rest. I notice it too. But as soon as I have done that, I get another sign from him (so I see his name somewhere, or I hear it on the radio, or I see his initials and mine on a license plate) and then I have to go inside anyway just smile. He won’t let me go. This morning, when I was in the shower (this is always a good time for me to think), I realized that my ego is getting in the way of me. He is just looking for love and my ego rejects the way (women’s hunting, dating sites and many conquests). But when I look at it purely, he is only eagerly looking for love, the woman with whom he can settle down. And I certainly wish him that, but the way I find it quite shocking sometimes. I sometimes read (very wrong, I know) on his Facebook and then I also see that he is working on that. I think that’s sad. As if you can force love. As if you can hold on to the eternal youth. Yesterday I read in his annual horoscope that he won’t find love this year … I’m afraid that’s true. He just runs on with blinkers on. I know that I have a “learning” role towards him as a twinflame. I have always felt that I had to protect him, teach him things. And that’s oo! k the purpose of our relationship I think; an intense strong bond in which we can learn from each other. Not even to have a physical relationship. But he doesn’t see that. I think karma is playing a part, which means that he will not find what he wants in this life. He has to learn and because he does not always learn from the lessons that come his way, everything comes over again and again until he does learn from it. But those lessons are getting harder and harder. His age is starting to bother him, most women his age are already settled, and he can no longer complete whole nights like before. If he does, then I have a hangover … I know what the key is for him to live a more satisfying life, but apparently it is not yet time to give it to him. (Unknown) and he can no longer cross entire nights like before. If he does, then I have a hangover … I know what the key is for him to live a more satisfying life, but apparently it is not yet time to give it to him. (Unknown) and he can no longer cross entire nights like before. If he does, then I have a hangover … I know what the key is for him to live a more satisfying life, but apparently it is not yet time to give it to him. (Unknown)
Answer 3
Dear questioner: you probably have a guiding role, most likely. The fact that you cannot let go the way he lives his life is probably the reason why you sometimes feel so bad. You know that each twin must walk its own path, anyway. We can help in this by accepting that our twins make their own choices, even though they distract them further from their path. Spiritually we can help DECIDE to push them in the right direction. Not by being judgmental against them, by saying; “Learn from your mistakes, you are not doing well !!” But by saying, “dear darling, I believe in you that you will find it.” Feel deeply deep love for him and send it to him while you have no judgment about his behavior but BELIEVE in his own strength. Say your deepest wish to the Universe, FEEL this deepest wish and BELIEVE that the Universe will arrange this for you. No matter how! and where and when. Believe that this will be arranged for you. This way you ensure that you can better accept what he is doing, so that you can really let go and you will feel significantly better !! It will also give you the peace of faith and the confidence that he will come back to you: IT IS HAPPENING !!! (Read The Secret) Love (L.) It will also give you the peace of faith and the confidence that he will come back to you: IT IS HAPPENING !!! (Read The Secret) Love (L.) It will also give you the peace of faith and the confidence that he will come back to you: IT IS HAPPENING !!! (Read The Secret) Love (L.)
Answer 4
Hi L, I totally agree with you, nice book also “The Secret”, I also had a lot of use and you know, with me it is not even believing anymore, I just KNOW. My partner would say “those are the worst, those who know”, haha, that’s why I don’t tell. This morning someone said to me, yes, but you are not a floating type at all, are you? and I thought that was a compliment and said “yes, but those you can’t see are the worst” haha, he should have known . (Unknown)
Answer 5
Dear L, thank you for your kind response. Yes, I have read the Secret and yes, that really works. I have experience with it myself. What you write is absolutely right and I had a time that I was on the right track and I could let everything go. However, I notice that this ability varies as my hormones fluctuate; so in certain weeks of the month I am much more vulnerable and insecure than in other weeks. It is precisely then that I am going to read on his personal sites (I promise: I will no longer do that), and then it will hurt me so much. While I know that he must walk his own path, that he must make his own mistakes and that he belongs to me so clearly that I should not have any doubts like that. And see, in the good weeks of the month I also have that conviction and it is all much better to see everything in the right perspective. I am currently in an upward trend again so I feel good. He came into my dream last night and although I have forgotten the exact scope, I became e! and blissful feeling awake. He makes contact when we are asleep (has been like this for a long time) and during the day I get a load of characters poured over me. Everywhere I look I see things that concern him. And that is not wishfull thinking. Last night; I am looking at Man bijt Hond, and a couple came in who were each other’s love for the soul (try to look back on broadcast missed, it was very nice, it was about De Flat). Then came a shot of a newspaper on which you could just read “Unfulfilled Desire”, and after this program came a commercial for a film called “De Zieleman” … There is no coincidence. (Unknown) He came into my dream last night and although I have forgotten the exact scope, I became e! and blissful feeling awake. He makes contact when we are asleep (has been like this for a long time) and during the day I get a load of characters poured over me. Everywhere I look I see things that concern him. And that is not wishfull thinking. Last night; I am looking at Man bijt Hond, and a couple came in who were each other’s love for the soul (try to look back on broadcast missed, it was very nice, it was about De Flat). Then came a shot of a newspaper on which you could just read “Unfulfilled Desire”, and after this program came a commercial for a film called “De Zieleman” … There is no coincidence. (Unknown) He came into my dream last night and although I have forgotten the exact scope, I became e! and blissful feeling awake. He makes contact when we are asleep (has been like this for a long time) and during the day I get a load of characters poured over me. Everywhere I look I see things that concern him. And that is not wishfull thinking. Last night; I am looking at Man bijt Hond, and a couple came in who were each other’s love for the soul (try to look back on broadcast missed, it was very nice, it was about De Flat). Then came a shot of a newspaper on which you could just read “Unfulfilled Desire”, and after this program came a commercial for a film called “De Zieleman” … There is no coincidence. (Unknown) He makes contact when we are asleep (has been like this for a long time) and during the day I get a load of characters poured over me. Everywhere I look I see things that concern him. And that is not wishfull thinking. Last night; I am looking at Man bijt Hond, and a couple came in who were each other’s love for the soul (try to look back on broadcast missed, it was very nice, it was about De Flat). Then came a shot of a newspaper on which you could just read “Unfulfilled Desire”, and after this program came a commercial for a film called “De Zieleman” … There is no coincidence. (Unknown) He makes contact when we are asleep (has been like this for a long time) and during the day I get a load of characters poured over me. Everywhere I look I see things that concern him. And that is not wishfull thinking. Last night; I am looking at Man bijt Hond, and a couple came in who were each other’s love for the soul (try to look back on broadcast missed, it was very nice, it was about De Flat). Then came a shot of a newspaper on which you could just read “Unfulfilled Desire”, and after this program came a commercial for a film called “De Zieleman” … There is no coincidence. (Unknown) and there came a couple who were in love with each other (just try to look back on broadcast missed, it was very nice, it was about De Flat). Then came a shot of a newspaper on which you could just read “Unfulfilled Desire”, and after this program came a commercial for a film called “De Zieleman” … There is no coincidence. (Unknown) and there came a couple who were in love with each other (just try to look back on broadcast missed, it was very nice, it was about De Flat). Then came a shot of a newspaper on which you could just read “Unfulfilled Desire”, and after this program came a commercial for a film called “De Zieleman” … There is no coincidence. (Unknown)
Answer 6
Do you see the chance to go away, go abroad for a few days or so? I have also been tired of energetic jerking, which went on constantly day and night. Went away for a few days and now no trouble at all Lake! Now it’s fine again, energetically too. I came home and found a phone book from a district with the same name as its last name while I had ordered another district! As if he wanted to say: I’m still there …? Indeed the same as you, haha comically that is. Love too. (Unknown)
Answer 7
No, just a few days in between unfortunately cannot succeed. But it would not be the solution either. I’m just taking my feelings with me, right? I have to say that things are already getting better. I do wish that we will not see each other for a while and hope that will come true. I really want a time out and rest. That makes me feel good. Because I know that when I see him again, my feelings flare up again and I don’t feel like it right now. I enjoy the contact we have at a distance and that is enough for now. (Unknown)
Answer 8
Dear questioner (answer 5); Ow, how I recognize that feeling of what you describe. The search again for him. Oh, how I recognize the pain and sorrow when you read on his sites that everything is cake and egg. Oh, how I recognize that doubt and uncertainty. But I ALSO recognize that trust, knowing that we belong together, and that everything will be alright. But those moments of intense loss so that I go looking, I find them worthless, because I know in advance that I will hurt myself with it. For a while I have forbidden myself to look, that gives more peace, but in the end the desire for information wins. And then I consciously admit to that. Before I view his site, I intend that we belong together and that I should not be discouraged by what I read. It helps a bit. I really want to know how far he is in this process. I feel so little of him. Sometimes I dream about him and those are telling dreams for me. Tired for the rest! I do what I THINK / FEEL how he is doing. Difficult. Keeping confidence, with or without The Secret, sometimes it works very well, and sometimes just not at all. The last time I decided to let this just come over me, not to resist, to pull back a little, to cry and then it will clear up later. If I do it this way, the bad periods will not last as long. It is also not something we get for our choices, from time to time we can definitely stop working hard and admit to ourselves that this process, that which they ask of us, is quite difficult. I think if you look at it that way, do not punish yourself for the fact that you occasionally relapse, you can also accept yourself with your weaker moments, that the bad moments will become shorter and shorter and less frequent. That’s how I want it, and that’s what I’m working towards. That is 1 of my lessons that twin teaches me. Fully accept myself in all! my mistakes and pitfalls. Accept that you don’t have to be perfect to be a great person !!!! How wonderful it is that we all have experiences in the same direction, right? I am so happy that I am not alone in this. That I am not a pioneer from the 80s. That this site exists !!!! Thank god. Love (L.) and I am working towards it. That is 1 of my lessons that twin teaches me. Fully accept myself in all! my mistakes and pitfalls. Accept that you don’t have to be perfect to be a great person !!!! How wonderful it is that we all have experiences in the same direction, right? I am so happy that I am not alone in this. That I am not a pioneer from the 80s. That this site exists !!!! Thank god. Love (L.) and I am working towards it. That is 1 of my lessons that twin teaches me. Fully accept myself in all! my mistakes and pitfalls. Accept that you don’t have to be perfect to be a great person !!!! How wonderful it is that we all have experiences in the same direction, right? I am so happy that I am not alone in this. That I am not a pioneer from the 80s. That this site exists !!!! Thank god. Love (L.) That this site exists !!!! Thank god. Love (L.) That this site exists !!!! Thank god. Love (L.)
Answer 9
Dear L from answer 8, I am the questioner and therefore also the one from answer 5. You are absolutely right. And I am also happy that there is now internet and so much can be found about it. A person would otherwise think that he had gone completely crazy … Those weak moments, yes, I do accept that from myself. I have just decided not to look anymore, not to hope that I see or hear him anymore, and just to live. I don’t even want to see him. It is sometimes just too intense. A few weeks ago I was at his place (there were others too) and while I looked at him I thought how beautiful I think he is. It touched me deeply. When we talked for a moment, he looked me deep in the eye, and there I go. Those moments appeal to me so much that I have to recover for days while he just seems to be skipping through his life and doesn’t think about anything. I know he is a little bit spiritual and my hope is based on that he will one day do more with it. In any case, he does not find it all nonsense happy. I feel very clearly somewhere that I may someday help and learn from him. When will time tell? Lots of love, and keep writing, I get a lot out of your pieces (A.)
Answer 10
Well otherwise I think L.’s pieces are better than the whole Secret! Open door booklet… (Unknown)
Answer 11
Dear A; I can’t say it from experience yet, but I believe you need days to recover when you’ve seen your twin in his eyes. Apparently, the lesson has also found a way to deal with these confrontations with our twins. I don’t see my twin at the moment. After our contact was broken, I only found out that we are twins. That gives me peace in the sense that I don’t have to gather myself after a meeting. But the desire does not diminish as a result. The deep wish remains to see him again, preferably very soon. I will tell you; THEN I will experience and feel the same as what you have just described. I think it’s hard to prepare for a meeting with your twin. Not as long as you are not powerful enough in your own feelings. I was always afraid of just fainting when I saw him again, because the additional emotions are SO intense and we can only balance them so difficult at this stage, balancing them. But I no longer know if that fear is so real. In my dream a while ago, I happened to meet him. We spoke to each other and I felt that he was interested in me, even became very cheerful, but still did not realize where this was coming from. What really struck me afterwards from my dream was that I was not at all nervous and that I could deal well with his ignorance. This gives me hope. I try to stick to this, I am confident that I can do this. Controlling your own feelings and still staying close to yourself, that is the ultimate lesson in this. Can you hopefully save the positive energy of this encounter? If you succeed, you will probably not be blown away so much when you meet again. If we can do this with our twins, we can do it with everyone. And that is what is needed. Staying in our strength. I hope to be able to try this out myself soon ….I will keep writing !!! It greatly helps me to exchange ideas with others about this. So also you dear A. keep writing! (Unknown)
Answer 12 To A of answer 9: Does your twinflame feel (energetically) manipulated or misled by your internet search behavior, and is that why he feels so tough? Kind of overcompensation for his sensitivity to you? (Unknown)
Answer 13
I will certainly continue to write here. That makes me very good. You may be right, answer 12, he may feel that I am “watching” him. Although of course I don’t do this under my own name. But perhaps he just feels it. Could be. In any case, he is also very sensitive like me, meaning he feels things and sometimes communicates with me in dreams. I also wish that we will not see each other for a long time and so far it has been possible for two weeks. First I want to learn to stay better in my own strength and only meet him again when I am very strong. Because what answer 11 says is correct; we help many others with that. Not just ourselves. It also varies with me how strong I feel towards him. Sometimes that works very well and I feel confident and I dare to challenge him with my words and looks. But sometimes I am vulnerable and he can hit me with an ankle! e remark. Anyway, I’m going to work on myself in the coming period. In dreams I have been able to experience a lot of news from him lately. He showed that he can’t believe it intellectually, that he knows that I am his twin. He does look for my proximity and sometimes we embrace each other. That feels so special and real. Keep you all writing here too, we can help each other. (A.) He showed that he can’t believe it intellectually, that he knows that I am his twin. He does look for my proximity and sometimes we embrace each other. That feels so special and real. Keep you all writing here too, we can help each other. (A.) He showed that he can’t believe it intellectually, that he knows that I am his twin. He does look for my proximity and sometimes we embrace each other. That feels so special and real. Keep you all writing here too, we can help each other. (A.)
Answer 14
Totally agree with Answer 10 !! I also like L’s answers a lot, thank you dear! maybe I buy The Secret one more time in the bookstore or something, but this is very useful to me. Love xxx (Elselina)