A lost soul

I think your website is great. I learned a lot from it. I no longer feel alone with my experience. I met my soulmate two years ago. We loved each other every day, but due to circumstances I banned him from my heart. It hurts, very, very, but his life and mine also continues. The void remains. Releasing is a very difficult process. It will never be ok again or still ??? If only I could forgive him and let go. Once I wanted him so badly in my life and now I do everything to banish him from my life but after reading your site, I realize that this is almost impossible. I first have to come to terms with myself before I can forgive and let go of my soulmate. There is nothing else to it but I need help. I can not do it alone. I pray for strength every day, but sometimes I go in silence. I hear my own heart breaking. I miss him and I feel that he misses me too, even though we are divorced. Why did I have to meet him and why did the divorce come? I am not in love and he is not and still stay w! like to see each other. I don’t understand and sometimes I don’t want to understand it anymore. It has been like this for months now, there is no end to it. Is time our salvation? How long do I have to endure this? All I have done is love him with all my heart. It wasn’t enough for him but now it’s too late. The sense of regret and lack comes too late. Too much harm has been done. I no longer feel any energy with myself and I no longer allow him to charge his batteries with me. I shield myself because only he can hurt me. He hurt me. I doubt that I have been a soulmate for him. Did he feel what I felt? I could not have been mistaken? Why did he hurt me if I was not mistaken? Does it really have to be that way between soulmates? Is attracting and repelling a form of play between two soulmates? Teach me to let go and find peace here. I wish my life back as before. Rest, no turmoil in my heart. No loss but satisfaction. ! No tension but relaxation. I want to be able to smile again and look at people with confidence. Now I have become a very suspicious person. Also suspicious of the future. It is negative, I want to come out of this, but I really can’t do it alone. I need a mentor. Where can I find those? I thank you in advance for this great site. Did he feel what I felt? I could not have been mistaken? Why did he hurt me if I was not mistaken? Does it really have to be that way between soulmates? Is attracting and repelling a form of play between two soulmates? Teach me to let go and find peace here. I wish my life back as before. Rest, no turmoil in my heart. No loss but satisfaction. ! No tension but relaxation. I want to be able to smile again and look at people with confidence. Now I have become a very suspicious person. Also suspicious of the future. It is negative, I want to come out of this, but I really can’t do it alone. I need a mentor. Where can I find those? I thank you in advance for this great site. Did he feel what I felt? I could not have been mistaken? Why did he hurt me if I was not mistaken? Does it really have to be that way between soulmates? Is attracting and repelling a form of play between two soulmates? Teach me to let go and find peace here. I wish my life back as before. Rest, no turmoil in my heart. No loss but satisfaction. ! No tension but relaxation. I want to be able to smile again and look at people with confidence. Now I have become a very suspicious person. Also suspicious of the future. It is negative, I want to come out of this, but I really can’t do it alone. I need a mentor. Where can I find those? I thank you in advance for this great site.

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I also want peace, peace in my head, in my heart, it is feeling distraught, I have had it so many times before, you think it all depends on the other person, but it is mostly with yourself. I also placed the responsibility with my twin every time with questions like why and what if, but dear desperate care that you first come to terms with yourself then you are ready for a real relationship with your twin, only then will you get rest, with perhaps flurries of despair, but it becomes quieter in the long run. and this also applies to your twin. I am now looking for a way to be happy with just myself, so that I can give the other person the space to work on themselves. if both twins do that, then another approach will come, and perhaps another one can be thought about, let go of your twinflame, it really doesn’t work but releasing dependencies, expectations. strength and seeking peace with yourself. strength (unknown)

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You do not write how it went, you are deeply sad and desperate and you write; he hurt me, but maybe he hurt himself even more and you can feel his pain with it. in my despair, in my fear sometimes I have done something very sad, sometimes you do not understand how great that connection is, even without seeing each other, how close you are connected, and then you want to live again without you just wants to be happy again, but that just doesn’t work! I am sometimes so sad that I get upset and angry and scared and then I am one level lower or maybe 10 levels lower and I can sometimes hurt my twin very much because of my behavior, but I still feel it myself hardest..i can yell very loudly that it is his own fault, that he is not doing well, but what do I do myself? dear desperate keep believing that everything will be fine. my experience is that your twin is just as sad as you and that he grows the fastest of his sad things..lovely greeting .. (unknown)

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Dear fellow roommate. I have so to do with you I know exactly what you mean. My twin and I have had this attracting and repelling for 7 years, but in the end I also banned him from my life due to circumstances. I could no longer use up my energy. Wanted to continue my life but it could not be because we each wanted to see each other so badly. Every day we had contact it was a kind of addiction. Now that it is ready and I have not spoken to him since 4 months. I still feel that emptiness. I don’t know how long it has been with you now, but I can tell you that the first few months were terrible as if I had fallen into a black hole. Also the contact that we had so intensely every day was no longer … so then your life is suddenly completely different .. with very few nice moments in a day (because he was no longer around me and heard his voice no more) My life had completely collapsed because I not only missed him as a friend and companion but also the idea that it would never see again and so I had to go on with life. So now 4 months later I still have very weak days that I think of him .. I still can’t understand that he is not looking for contact anymore … he is scared and hurt him too much but at the same time he also hurt me very deeply . I want to forgive him, but maybe it’s better this way. I feel stronger every day, but whether the loss will ever pass. It was so strong between us. I think it’s better to do fun things again. You try to enjoy your things that you have. I did not want to believe that in the first few months either, but slowly it keeps itself and respect comes back. You have to get this too. If you are strong in life again. You are open to other things and loves again. What I just can’t ignore is that I will never be with another! get the same as with him. So I do not know if there will still be a love that is my great fear …… strength (Unknown)

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Confusion, that is the word that comes to mind now, I met my soul love 4 years ago and lost 9 months ago due to circumstances. Not literally but figuratively. The last 9 months I went through a grieving process, what a misery but now I can see that I have become stronger: more independent, less dependent. However, I still miss my soulmate but I still don’t have the courage to visit her again. She has gone a different way while I know that we are made for each other. It becomes increasingly clear to me: I can trust my inner knowledge and not let myself be guided by (well-intended) external advice: I am growing! (Unknown)