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Dear reader, Let me introduce myself, I am a woman who has been connected for 10 years with a young man who is gay. During those 10 years I have built up an inseparable friendship with it. Every time I heard nothing from him for a few days, sometimes for 1 to 2 weeks, I became depressed and lost a part of myself. Last year he left his home country for work abroad, namely Turkey. He had been there on vacation and met someone. This week he is back for the first time visiting his parents in Belgium and has also contacted me again. He introduced me to his Turkish friend himself. I asked him if that person was his true love. He told me he wasn’t sure. He couldn’t trust me with a clear yes or no. He is always looking for something new in his rebellious life. I’m sure he hasn’t found the right one yet. He will be staying in Belgium this week and so far has only visited me once with a friend, so not alone. Friday, March 26, 2010 I am celebrating my birthday, and I am not sure if he has anything in store for that special day of mine. I am now in a crisis period. I am torn by anger and hate and not by love. What should I do ? Just let this crucial week pass without having to hear from me? Or do I have to take the initiative for the umpteenth time to spend another few minutes / hours together? That’s what I’m craving. Can you give me an answer to this? He will be staying in Belgium this week and so far has only visited me once with a friend, so not alone. Friday, March 26, 2010 I am celebrating my birthday, and I am not sure if he has anything in store for that special day of mine. I am now in a crisis period. I am torn by anger and hate and not by love. What should I do ? Just let this crucial week pass without having to hear from me? Or do I have to take the initiative for the umpteenth time to spend another few minutes / hours together? That’s what I’m craving. Can you give me an answer to this? He will be staying in Belgium this week and so far has only visited me once with a friend, so not alone. Friday, March 26, 2010 I am celebrating my birthday, and I am not sure if he has anything in store for that special day of mine. I am now in a crisis period. I am torn by anger and hate and not by love. What should I do ? Just let this crucial week pass without having to hear from me? Or do I have to take the initiative for the umpteenth time to spend another few minutes / hours together? That’s what I’m craving. Can you give me an answer to this? I am now in a crisis period. I am torn by anger and hate and not by love. What should I do ? Just let this crucial week pass without having to hear from me? Or do I have to take the initiative for the umpteenth time to spend another few minutes / hours together? That’s what I’m craving. Can you give me an answer to this? I am now in a crisis period. I am torn by anger and hate and not by love. What should I do ? Just let this crucial week pass without having to hear from me? Or do I have to take the initiative for the umpteenth time to spend another few minutes / hours together? That’s what I’m craving. Can you give me an answer to this?

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A difficult situation that is amai! Just look at what your heart is saying, your heart is never wrong, look if you feel it, it should feel it too, maybe it’s just a very confused person and has become gay because he thought he was gay because he wasn’t a suitable woman thought but I think he now has the same problem with the men, he wants certainty and is a huge doubter !! One day he will realize what it is that is meant for him and if you are you will feel that when he starts to realize that too! Try subtly (very subtly) to talk to him about being gay and women and you, but please be careful, do not force anything and give it its time. In addition, every time that you can spend together, you must grab it, I think you should do it, but only you know the right thing in your heart !! Do what your heart says, be quiet in your heart and listen carefully !!!!! Talk about it with someone you understand (I really mean understanding) You can also contact me if you want claudiake1@hotmail.com much love (Claudia)

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Your story is clear. What I read out that you want to be in control of your band. Instead of I want this, I want that, you have no choice but that you have to let it go because apparently you’re not comfortable. Make clear what you want from him but do not claim him. It is up to him whether he can meet your condition. If not, you will have to let go (do not depend on him). (Unknown)