Lilian
When I met my twinflame, it was impossible for me to stay with my husband. It felt like self-denial. I know that a lot of people here think differently about ‘meeting your soul love and staying with your partner’ than I do. Every time I lay next to my husband, I thought “what the hell am I doing here, I don’t love this man at all anymore”. Because I believe that you will only meet your twinflame when your marriage is already in the phase of death after death, otherwise you would not be open to it in advance. I am therefore divorced because I saw my intense love for my twinflame as a betrayal to my partner. We took care of the children, but there was no question of a loving marriage. The book by Patricia Joudry and Maurie Pressman literally states: “The union between twinflames is a commitment of love in its full meaning; they are immortal lovers’. That is why you can never see your marriage and the encounter with your twinflame – in my view – separate from each other. What I think is that people are just afraid of this love, therefore running away from it, not daring to face the confrontation and therefore just saying, you have to let go because that is the intention. Well, no, the intention is that you have the opportunity to live with your twinflame, because it is given to you from above. All you have to do is grasp that one chance that you get in your life with both hands because it never comes! Anxiety is such a bad counselor, but most people are led by it. For me, a medium told me that his guides were busy with him, that he is already starting to get physical complaints. But he does not want to listen (out of fear) and stays rigid in that (bad) marriage. Maybe someday I will meet someone again, but that will never be a twinflame, the feeling will never be the same. And the chance is even very big that I decide to stay alone. That is the most attractive option for me at the moment because a meeting like this has a lot to do with regard to emotional life, you first have to get rid of it completely. the feeling will never be the same. And the chance is even very big that I decide to stay alone. That is the most attractive option for me at the moment because a meeting like this has a lot to do with regard to emotional life, you first have to get rid of it completely. the feeling will never be the same. And the chance is even very big that I decide to stay alone. That is the most attractive option for me at the moment because a meeting like this has a lot to do with regard to emotional life, you first have to get rid of it completely.
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What I think is that people are just afraid of this love, therefore running away from it, not daring to face the confrontation and therefore just saying, you have to let go because that is the intention. Well, no, the intention is that you have the opportunity to live with your twinflame, because it is given to you from above ‘
I can agree with what Lilian writes above. I myself also believe that it is precisely the fear in man that causes them to give up their dearest dream of coming together with their twinflame mate. The Inner Process is heavy and takes a lot of Courage, Honesty, Responsibility, Self-Trust, Self-Love and Faith. For many people this process is Too Conflicting, often they are fleeing because they have not yet developed sufficient strength, responsibility, faith etc to accept what they see in the mirror of the other about themselves. What often happens is that many give up when one twin goes through the process faster than the other. Due to the different vibrations / levels of consciousness, problems often arise such as misunderstanding, ambiguity, misconceptions and miscommunication. One gets ‘removed’ from each other and the person who goes through the process faster can get the feeling that the other person will never be able to keep up with him / her, or feel that they cannot deny themselves by continuing to ‘wait’ and therefore decide to continue on his / her own path. The person who has chosen / has chosen to go through the process at a slow pace can also become frustrated / desperate because the other person is going so fast. He / she may get the feeling that they are not keeping up with the other, or may be afraid of losing the other as a result, and from that fear they may start to reject the other even more through all kinds of ego / fear behavior. It is not for nothing that many twins are separated from each other again. As long as you cannot really take care of yourself and love yourself 100% from your heart, no longer denying / renouncing yourself for another (making someone else’s inner child more important than yourself), it is not possible to have an unconditional love relationship with another. Many people think of this process by heart but you cannot think this process, you will have to feel it and live through it. Only when you have truly experienced and completed this process on an inner level, will you see that there will be more than enough Trust, Patience, Understanding, Faith, Own Love and (creation) Power present. Being in your Own Power is the result of that Inner Completion, when you stand in your own power you will see that All Your Dreams can come true. The only thing you have to do is … Believe in yourSelf and your Dreams. Have the Courage to Dare to Dream even if you experience that your twin-soulmate has opted for a slower pace and you (temporarily) have to separate. At the right moment, a moment chosen by God, your souls will attract each other again like magnets. That moment will be when you both experience yourself and the other as love, not from the Head but from the Heart. Lief (ChildofGod – Ivy)
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I think Ivy is absolutely right. You go through a whole process, when you decide to abandon it for whatever reason, you shut yourself off from something. The result? I myself am right in the middle of it but I keep believing. In it I notice that I am becoming stronger and stronger, but at the same time experience the vibration level as particularly vulnerable. And can you handle that? It is pure, an inner cleansing process and so much more. You cannot hide anything. A very nice learning process. I advise everyone to take it, even if you come across your ego. Try to see through your ego. In my opinion, you can’t get a nicer gift. (Unknown)
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Even though you are going to live on the other side of the world, this soul-love connection and experience will never let you go, it will always remain a part of your life. A part that belongs to you. You will feel that strong bond that you have together wherever you are. You feel each other. no matter how many times you marry afterwards. He / she will always be a part of you. learning to live with it, that will be the only thing, but going into battle with yourself, going into sorrow, the end cannot be overlooked. So become happy without your soul love? No, after all these years, I have never found happiness again (Unknown)
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Thank you, childofgod, Finally an encouraging answer. You can never let go of something that is deep. Something that is deep, you must be careful with, and ensure that you do not lose (M)
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My soulmate died two years ago after a terrible illness. He was considerably older than me but we had seen each other once and we both knew that we belonged together. We shared everything, joys and sorrows, we contacted each other with every setback or joy, we tried each other almost every By the way, both families accepted this by the way. When he died I was standing at the foot of his bed and at the moment of his last breath of air I had a very warm feeling as if he still wanted to stay with me … Now more than two years later I am still devastated by grief. I no longer get his favorite dishes, I can no longer hear his music every hour of the day, I say to him, three times a week I go to the cemetery, where I relax. My marriage just continues, his family quickly got over the loss; everything revolved around material things. My life has lost all brilliance. It is hard to accept that I only have to continue with memories, I miss his voice, his comforting words, his encouraging pat on the back, his smile, his humor, his wisdom … and I am not open to new encounters. I dare and can not be happy anymore? It is indeed something that you will experience once in your life. If the age difference had not been that huge, we would both have left everything behind to be together 24/24 hours. We both did and I still did everything for our family and partner, but because we both had to live together with a very cool partner, we had something like ‘we allow ourselves this’, a little warmth is that every person is entitled to? my advice: grant yourself this love when it presents itself. The fact that you meet your soulmate means that it MUST be that way, whether you are in a relationship or not. It feels so RIGHT that you have to admit it. If you doubt that then it is not your REAL soulmate. Doubt is never there. (Unknown)
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Just a note about what Lilian writes: “I believe you will only meet your twin when your marriage is almost over, otherwise you will not be open to it.” Unfortunately it can also be the other way around: my twin met me when he was single (and me too), but broke our friendship and was open to someone else. He is now married to that. So unfortunately, fate is often more erratic than you want and it does not follow ready-made roads. (Unknown)
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I have the same question; what now? I have recognized what Lilian describes for thirty years. Met my soulmate when we were teenagers. The contact, the click, has always been there and has become more intense and intense over the years. I can confirm that distance from your soulmate (moved to Spain) and other relationships doesn’t matter. Although I live my life, relationships went and came …. there was always the question, the little voice: what if my soulmate wants to continue with me tomorrow? My soulmate and I are both currently in a relationship. We have expressed our feelings to each other recently, these are mutual. Yet we do not dare to choose each other. I’m sure we’d both like to shout out how much we love each other. Can’t explain it, it’s past being in love, getting to know each other, it is; different, and inevitable, and unstoppable. But then the fear of that intense, unknown, what if it breaks? Now my soulmate is my better-than-best friend. Why isn’t that enough? Why do I feel a stab in my heart because he is in a relationship? I also have that myself, does my soulmate also feel that pain? I didn’t dare ask him that, I lie that I want the best for him, and of course he has to find his happiness with his current girlfriend. (Ah! …. but who am I to ask him to leave her.) And how unfair I am to my current partner. I myself am currently also in a situation where I realize that just going further in life is even better than being stuck in my current relationship for practical reasons. (especially financially). If my soulmate and I both feel the same way, why is choosing each other so complicated? Who can explain how you only rely on your feelings, without your mind and thoughts getting in the way? (Unknown)
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I have known my twinflame for a long time. From primary school. Even then, we couldn’t be beat together. Then our ways parted to get back together by chance a year and a half ago, when she was 39 and I 40 years old. The love between us was enormous, just beyond description. I was still alone, she married for the second time. After a year it broke. I could no longer put her marriage under pressure. However, since the break, I am only a shadow of myself. I miss her day and night. We shared everything together. Every facet of existence. There is no one else in the world who can be compared to her. The pain is huge and I’m afraid it will stay. It just won’t go away. I flee into a drink addiction. My life is actually broken and so one, two, three do not know how to implement it again. We knew right away, to be each other’s twinflame from the first minute. We started working together. I am an illustrator / painter by profession and she gave the ideal ideas. She became me and I became her. In love we came to the heavens. A true unification. It was the most beautiful year of my life. Now it’s gone. The pain does not diminish. It stays. The desire for her presence remains. I still feel her wherever I am. Nobody understands it. It is said that I was not myself with her, but I was. People have turned away from me because I love her so much. The loneliness is unbearable. (Unknown) In love we came to the heavens. A true unification. It was the most beautiful year of my life. Now it’s gone. The pain does not diminish. It stays. The desire for her presence remains. I still feel her wherever I am. Nobody understands it. It is said that I was not myself with her, but I was. People have turned away from me because I love her so much. The loneliness is unbearable. (Unknown) In love we came to the heavens. A true unification. It was the most beautiful year of my life. Now it’s gone. The pain does not diminish. It stays. The desire for her presence remains. I still feel her wherever I am. Nobody understands it. It is said that I was not myself with her, but I was. People have turned away from me because I love her so much. The loneliness is unbearable. (Unknown) The loneliness is unbearable. (Unknown) The loneliness is unbearable. (Unknown)