Helen

I had to meet him at work. We had to work together in a project. He knows exactly what I mean. I only have to say half a word. If we look at each other in groups, we know what the other person is thinking. We are an open book to each other. He just as much for me as I do for him. Our humor fits together perfectly. I feel safe with him. He with me and yet I know that he will always choose his family and his children. I would do that too. I still wonder how that feeling can arise. All those dating pages there you don’t get that feeling with anyone. I know I’m looking for someone like that, but where do I find him? It’s so hard to let him go. I don’t know what to do with it. I just know he feels the same way. The way he looks and turns his head away. and yet it is so unreachable for me.

Answer
I completely recognize myself in Helen. We also met through work. The click was not immediate because we were not in daily contact with each other, but when we met, there was, it turned out, mutual recognition. We feel and complement each other completely. When we are tired and we talk to each other, we are full of energy again, even silently together we still tell each other immeasurably much. I am at a crossroads, would give up everything if he does, but he stays with his family, thinks the children have the right to a father and mother. And thereby completely sets his own happiness aside. I have a great respect for his choice and know that I will not get him over the line by being the first to decide. He even gets married because his girlfriend sometimes expects that. We both say ‘when it is the children’ s turn it is our turn ‘. We repeatedly talk about moving on platonically, but we are each other’s magnet and give each other so much positive energy on every level that that time and time again fails. Should I try to let him go and see what the future still has in store for us? Are we together now to make ourselves realize that we have made certain choices incorrectly or not and will we no longer need each other later? I can understand the first, but the second makes me cry very much, because I can no longer imagine a life without him, no matter how scarce (but great) the moments are. (Unknown) but we are each other’s magnet and give each other so much positive energy in every area that time and time again fails. Should I try to let him go and see what the future still has in store for us? Are we together now to make ourselves realize that we have made certain choices incorrectly or not and will we no longer need each other later? I can understand the first, but the second makes me cry very much, because I can no longer imagine a life without him, no matter how scarce (but great) the moments are. (Unknown) but we are each other’s magnet and give each other so much positive energy in every area that time and time again fails. Should I try to let him go and see what the future still has in store for us? Are we together now to make ourselves realize that we have made certain choices incorrectly or not and will we no longer need each other later? I can understand the first, but the second makes me cry very much, because I can no longer imagine a life without him, no matter how scarce (but great) the moments are. (Unknown)

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Soul love and unreachability seem to belong together. The characteristics that you mention belong to soul love. Feeling and knowing. That feeling you describe does not ‘arise’ a la minute either, that has been built up in previous lives. At the moment of your meeting you remember that as it were. The meeting triggers your ‘memory’. Most of the time the purpose of your encounter with your twinflame is not to stay together but to “wake up” each other, to make each other aware of how you yourself deal with important choices in your life. Or to make you realize that you are avoiding important choices. Letting go of your expectations towards the other also seems to belong to soul love. True love knows no expectations. We are not used to that. This is often a difficult learning process. Even if you have no expectations, you don’t have to let him go if you don’t want to. Just talk to him about it. For example, tell him what you write in you in this post. Ask him how he experiences your band. If there is soul love, he will no doubt understand. Talk to each other about how to continue with your band. You don’t have to be afraid of anything. (Tiny)