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My twin wants me back after years of being silent. Now I want to forgive him, but it doesn’t work that way. Is he really interested in me? It suits him well now, because he knows that I am a listening ear to him. But when I needed it, it wasn’t there.
Answer 1
Would almost want to be in your shoes … (TD)
Answer 2
I also have a twin that only comes when it suits him, when he wants something done or needs something. Lives very much from its own framework and finds itself rather the center of the universe. Yes, that doesn’t sound nice but it is true. And sometimes I’m angry with him for these reasons. He has hurt me so many times and yet I can never be angry for a long time. It is as if I know the underlying reason why he does this (fear and powerlessness) and that makes me look a little milder at his actions. I would like to advise you; give him a chance, who knows he may have improved his life. Protect yourself well and stay strong. Then you can hardly happen. (Unknown)
Answer 3
If you feel hurt, that is another point of pain for you .. anything that still hurts you is something that is still bothering you, that makes you feel insecure about it or where your pain is touched .. (Unknown)
A nswer 4
Yes, that’s right. There are still problems with me, I am fully aware of that. I also try to work on it, but this goes on and off. I have not seen and heard from my twinflame for weeks and that is nice and quiet. I also realize that I think that’s because it’s just nice and safe; he can’t do anything to me if he’s not there. But soon there will come a time when we have to see each other and I am already afraid of the pain that this will cause. I am also afraid that in order to avoid that pain, I will be very distant and not let him get close. (Unknown)
Answer 5
@ answer 3: a point of pain with you, that is absolutely true, but that does not mean that you will ever reach a point where a nasty hurting twin does nothing to you; unity, unkindness, cruelty; if a soul love does that to someone else he is the problem founder, I can only have compassion for that as a soul love, because there is a reason why someone does that, it hinders a contact for me. soul love is already so vulnerable, if someone does not consciously treat you well in such a vulnerable situation then he may still have so much soul love for me, he will not get in with me. (Unknown)
Answer 6
@ answer 5; Yes you’re right about that. Yet I believe he will change as he grows in the process. I also say that I do not hurt him by being married to someone else and having a life, that hurts him immensely. But there is nothing you can do about it; I knew the other person long before I even knew who my twinflame was, I loved and love the man I am with. What stumbles me so much is that sometimes my twinflame is a little disrespectful; like that time that he put me in the face of others. That happened under the influence of alcohol, but I find that a poor excuse. I would never do that to him, never. Yet I love him because I know that he does it out of powerlessness. (Unknown)
Answer 7
Insulting others o ivl. of alcohol; someone who loves you does not do that, at least not more than once, otherwise he has a large press. problem. He then creates a worthless karma in my opinion, which he must at least rectify. Even if you want to do that by forgiving m, the matter does not resolve. That he is sad because you are married is also not an excuse, because you are also sad. If your soul love feels for him you have understanding, compassion, and love for this. you can continue to grow anyway, he is no worse person than you or me because of this, he also feels no more / less love because of this; he only processes sorrow … via a hard way. (Unknown)
Answer 8
To Answer 7; You got that absolutely right. Maybe I should have said it more clearly. He gave me a very uncomfortable feeling once when he had been drinking. We were at a party (my husband, he and I) and when we left all three, he had to say that I thought it was all too nice that he had come. Earlier that day he had called that he was not feeling well and would not go. I was disappointed then and after the phone call I sent him some energy so that he would feel better. That apparently worked because he showed up anyway, to my great joy indeed. But he shouldn’t have said that so pontifically. I understand, he wants confirmation that I was indeed happy that I love him too. But I cannot give him that confirmation, at least not verbally. He does indeed process his problems in the hard way and that makes me very sad to have to face that. And yet I can’t change him, he has to do it himself. The only thing I can do for him is send him a lot of love and talk to him when we get the opportunity. I also realize very well that my hurt feeling is in me, because of course he had a point. He was just right by saying that I really liked that he was there, but I was very annoyed that he said it in front of everyone. (Unknown) I also realize very well that my hurt feeling is in me, because of course he had a point. He was just right by saying that I really liked that he was there, but I was very annoyed that he said it in front of everyone. (Unknown) I also realize very well that my hurt feeling is in me, because of course he had a point. He was just right by saying that I really liked that he was there, but I was very annoyed that he said it in front of everyone. (Unknown)
Answer 9
My twinflame also lives in his own little world. The moment he confronts me with his little thinking and acts accordingly, I give it back to him. I always refer him to his heart. He also realizes afterwards. As a whole, he knows that he has to work on his behavior. He needs help with that. I help him find his way. (Maike)