Unknown

I don’t really know what to do anymore, and I hope you can give me a clear answer, I will try to tell it as clearly as possible. Almost 5 years ago I met my twinflame, from the first eye contact, we got in touch, and we soon had contact. The sexual attraction has always been very strong between us, as well as the attraction from person to person. We started a relationship that was and is very intense, but he lives together and therefore secretly comes to me. He quickly indicated that she chose her, although he remains very unclear about his real feelings. I myself ended up in a roller coaster of emotions, and I was so upset by my feelings that I could not set any limits. recently there were a number of questions here, from which the word narcissism emerged, I started reading this and I must honestly say that I can clearly find my twinflame (and myself) in it. let me put it this way that I let myself hurt a lot and let me play with me, all because I love him a lot. I have a hard time setting boundaries because of a strong past. I am ignored, not answered honestly, everything is on its time and whenever it feels like it. If I read some answers I can overcome my ego, and have tried this many times, but the pain that comes up through the past is so intense, and thereby being silent and not clear has made me unable to forgive anymore . I have tried everything to be able to keep going with him, but I am afraid I cannot overcome my ego. I am in a terrible battle because on the one hand I do not want to get rid of it (there are of course beautiful things between us) but on the other hand I have no idea what to do with it. I am hardly trying to put my twinflame in a bad light here because I have let this happen to myself, but I can no longer push myself away and bitterness and anger arise every day. In my area I can’t talk to anyone about it because the people who love me don’t like him so much. I am afraid he is too strong for me, and I can only say that I have ended up in a downward spiral. I often feel sad and depressed. This will partly be due to my own negative world model, but it cannot be said otherwise that I also feel misused by him. Maybe someone has an answer to this, although I know that the answer is in me, I am too confused at the moment. Love

Answer 1
You outline a very recognizable situation for me, I recognize a lot from my own situation. But I would not just put the Narcissism stamp somewhere, because what you describe could just as well be Asperger’s Syndrome, and with that everything would come in a completely different perspective…. What is especially important is what it does to you! You have a duty to take good care of yourself and you don’t really do that now … Who says you should keep dealing with him? You make that choice, you have that freedom, although you may not feel it. Maybe you learn from him to set your limits, because you have to end up … It is a painfully painful learning process, I sympathize with you. (Unknown)

Answer 2
I feel sorry for you. I have also been there in that negative thing. I find that now that I have found friendly contact with him, it is better to give it a place. I think that besides your life with him (as far as you can call it) you should also be open to other contacts. More to look for things outside of him and to keep him in mind. By staying stuck in this, you end up in a downward spiral. I think you better start looking for activities outside of him. Go out and date with other guys too. He also snaps outside the door … Do not wait for something that may not come to you. Maybe he will come if he gets the feeling of losing you … now you are very dependent, I think … you are too sweet (like me) good luck,

Answer 3
In my veil of hair, I look for a hiding place for sorrow, for everything that does not slide around my shoulders like a blanket. I am desperately heading towards a wavering sun, because it has to be, because it has to … Is a poem by Ina Sousa. I am the author of answer 1 and had to think of this poem when I wrote my response, I looked it up for you. Strength .. (Unknown)

Answer 4
I think you should be careful not to put his behavior in a box, just as you cannot put your twinflames in a box. I also have a twin with a lot of narcissistic characteristics and yet I can’t comprehend that it really is that way, that’s why I always want to understand what happens because then I can give it a place, regardless of whether I like the answer or not. Anyway, I have a negative twin with fear of commitment or I know a lot about what he has (and I don’t care) the most important thing is that I (and therefore YOU) learn to deal with it. And I have to learn to deal with it because it is so deeply woven into me like the blood that flows through my veins, and no escape is possible…. and I can tell you, it is a tough learning school !!! but if you only get hit long enough you finally get to the point that it no longer matters so much what he does or doesn’t do, what he does or does not want to say and wants to share with me and / or us! whether or not ever come together in this life. Which does not mean that my curiosity and my Love for him have diminished, I would really like to talk to him. If my suspicion is correct, after discovering a common thread, I can imagine that the life of a twin can take very strange turns and that you can teach yourself a certain behavior as protection. But what I have intended and what I find very important, you cannot be TOO LOVE, it is you or you are not. what is possible is that you do away with it and you have to watch out for it and find a way in it. I believe that these problems and situations can only be solved with Love and that requires a great deal of self-knowledge and discipline in order not to be drawn into negativity. I succeeded and you will probably succeed girl, toitoitoi, you are still so young, take care of yourself and especially enjoy the beautiful things! And if it has to be that way, someday you will get together … anytime. Love. (Butterfly)

Answer 5
Whatever name you attach to it, the fact remains that you are not taking care of yourself. It is difficult to completely distance yourself from someone with whom you are emotionally connected. And yet that is the only way to go back to the basics of yourself. You have now lost yourself in your twinflame, which does not make you happy either. Whatever you think of yourself, it remains an important issue that you find yourself again. If you continue like this, things will go wrong once. (Sanne)
Answer 6 Thanks for the sweet messages and wise advice, nice to read how everyone has their own input. Thanks answer 1 for the choice that you gave me back at that time, idd does have to do with the fact that I have to set my own limits and love myself more. And that the lesson is too. At the same time as the buyer of answer 5, it did lead me to the point that something had to change. For answer 2, I understand very well what you mean, and have enough friends and go away enough, I have also tried other relationships and dates, that is not my way anymore, even though I take a position depending on him, that is absolutely true. I can also agree with answer 4, even though I have tried to do so, but notice that there are limits to me, and yet I care, maybe I have too much ego. that I feel deeply connected is a fact, but not being able to walk away gives me a feeling of being trapped and leaving it all to him, you can let it go but it is not fun. Answer 1, your poem is beautiful, thank you for looking for this for me. In addition, I would like to state that although my twinflame does have narcissistic traits (and no asperger’s syndrome), I don’t think he really is. I know very well who he is without his ego, in that respect I can feel his soul. Just as I can feel his difficulty with this situation. So if I gave people the idea that it was a sticking on of a label, it had to do with the intensity of my emotions at the time. I therefore think it is most important that I pick up my own life again, I also booked a vacation to a distant country. Sniffing in a different culture and habits will probably give me more peace in my head, have become too stuck in thinking. I am aware that he will always sit in my head and always carry him in my heart. Yet I know that I will have to walk my way alone for a while, and that he will disappear from the picture, I can only hope (not wait and count down the days, or even expect in this life) that we will meet again may meet. Maybe we will both be ready by then. In the meantime, I will be completely his own, but I will also be able to meet myself again from my heart, so that we can still be one and the same, because I have no doubt about that. Thanks again, love (Unknown) Sniffing in a different culture and habits will probably give me more peace in my head, have become too stuck in thinking. I am aware that he will always sit in my head and always carry him in my heart. Yet I know that I will have to walk my way alone for a while, and that he will disappear from the picture, I can only hope (not wait and count down the days, or even expect in this life) that we will meet again may meet. Maybe we will both be ready by then. In the meantime, I will be completely his own, but I will also be able to meet myself again from my heart, so that we can still be one and the same, because I have no doubt about that. Thanks again, love (Unknown) Sniffing in a different culture and habits will probably give me more peace in my head, have become too stuck in thinking. I am aware that he will always sit in my head and always carry him in my heart. Yet I know that I will have to walk my way alone for a while, and that he will disappear from the picture, I can only hope (not wait and count down the days, or even expect in this life) that we will meet again may meet. Maybe we will both be ready by then. In the meantime, I will be completely his own, but I will also be able to meet myself again from my heart, so that we can still be one and the same, because I have no doubt about that. Thanks again, love (Unknown) got stuck in thinking too much. I am aware that he will always sit in my head and always carry him in my heart. Yet I know that I will have to walk my way alone for a while, and that he will disappear from the picture, I can only hope (not wait and count down the days, or even expect in this life) that we will meet again may meet. Maybe we will both be ready by then. In the meantime, I will be completely his own, but I will also be able to meet myself again from my heart, so that we can still be one and the same, because I have no doubt about that. Thanks again, love (Unknown) got stuck in thinking too much. I am aware that he will always sit in my head and always carry him in my heart. Yet I know that I will have to walk my way alone for a while, and that he will disappear from the picture, I can only hope (not wait and count down the days, or even expect in this life) that we will meet again may meet. Maybe we will both be ready by then. In the meantime, I will be completely his own, but I will also be able to meet myself again from my heart, so that we can still be one and the same, because I have no doubt about that. Thanks again, love (Unknown) and that he will disappear from the picture, I can only hope (not wait and count down the days, or even expect in this life) that we may meet again. Maybe we will both be ready by then. In the meantime, I will be completely his own, but I will also be able to meet myself again from my heart, so that we can still be one and the same, because I have no doubt about that. Thanks again, love (Unknown) and that he will disappear from the picture, I can only hope (not wait and count down the days, or even expect in this life) that we may meet again. Maybe we will both be ready by then. In the meantime, I will be completely his own, but I will also be able to meet myself again from my heart, so that we can still be one and the same, because I have no doubt about that. Thanks again, love (Unknown) because I don’t doubt that. Thanks again, love (Unknown) because I don’t doubt that. Thanks again, love (Unknown)