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I just typed a whole story under question 628 about my meeting with my twin today. That included the shattering desire that you can feel when your twin leaves you after you talk to each other or whatever. The intense sad feeling that you want to follow him, want to be with him. Do you know that? That you look after him / her until you see nothing, that you literally feel that you are being pulled apart? I have a hard time dealing with it. I’m very sad about it. How do you deal with that?
Answer 1
Dear A: I have read a very nice piece about twinflames on the site of Frederike: ‘That is why twinflames will always visit each other again, for the simple reason that the pain of seeing each other does not outweigh each other than being occasionally close. However, as soon as the moment of saying goodbye has arrived, there will be raw pain and despair. Even feelings of genuine mourning are possible. However, the more often the two souls meet, the better they will learn to deal with their feelings. This naturally benefits the growth of both souls. ” I have had that feeling that the souls are tearing themselves apart from each other 3 times. Every next time saying goodbye got worse. I experienced those feelings of real mourning for 7 weeks after I last put him on the train in August. After that we never saw each other again. Every time the souls separate you can almost literally feel them tearing. I now also know p! recies where my soul is. How do you deal with this? You can hardly do that. I wonder if you ever learn that in your life. I have read stories of twins who have been together for some time and say that saying goodbye hurts, but also gives joy to seeing the next. But these twins were already together in all consciousness. I would not know sweetie how to handle this. You probably only succeed when your twin loves you as much as you love him. Then you are REALLY together even if you are not together. Strength sweetheart, I think of you. (L.) I now also know p! recies where my soul is. How do you deal with this? You can hardly do that. I wonder if you ever learn that in your life. I have read stories of twins who have been together for some time and say that saying goodbye hurts, but also gives joy to seeing the next. But these twins were already together in all consciousness. I would not know sweetie how to handle this. You probably only succeed when your twin loves you as much as you love him. Then you are REALLY together even if you are not together. Strength sweetheart, I think of you. (L.) I now also know p! recies where my soul is. How do you deal with this? You can hardly do that. I wonder if you ever learn that in your life. I have read stories of twins who have been together for some time and say that saying goodbye hurts, but also gives joy to seeing the next. But these twins were already together in all consciousness. I would not know sweetie how to handle this. You probably only succeed when your twin loves you as much as you love him. Then you are REALLY together even if you are not together. Strength sweetheart, I think of you. (L.) I have read stories of twins who have been together for some time and say that saying goodbye hurts, but also gives joy to seeing the next. But these twins were already together in all consciousness. I would not know sweetie how to handle this. You probably only succeed when your twin loves you as much as you love him. Then you are REALLY together even if you are not together. Strength sweetheart, I think of you. (L.) I have read stories of twins who have been together for some time and say that saying goodbye hurts, but also gives joy to seeing the next. But these twins were already together in all consciousness. I would not know sweetie how to handle this. You probably only succeed when your twin loves you as much as you love him. Then you are REALLY together even if you are not together. Strength sweetheart, I think of you. (L.) I’m thinking about you. (L.) I’m thinking about you. (L.)
Answer 2
Dear L., thank you for your kind response, that makes me so happy! I felt bad all day today when I thought of my twinflame and I keep thinking about him no matter how I try not to. I think of yesterday, how enchantingly beautiful he was, how icy his attitude was and how flaming and painful my heart was. It still is. I know what you say is true; only if he feels the same to me will this end. The big question nobody can answer is: when? Well, I just have the feeling that it can take a long time. He does not realize what he is doing to me, how much he is hurting me by making spiky remarks and creating an icy distance. I do know that it is purely his ego that he is working here out of fear, but that does not make it any less painful. The strange thing is that in dreams I do have contact with his soul and that is completely different. He declared my soul love to me in a dream and in another (recent) dream he talked to me with a cloth over his face so that I could not see him, and asked for understanding. You mention the site of Frederike. Who is that? Where can I find that? I would like to read about it. Yesterday was such a weird day. I was very excited that he would come. Then he came after a long wait and suddenly stood next to me without my knowledge. Immediately I felt the icy distance, he also wore sunglasses that reinforced that. I couldn’t look into his eyes. I felt so rejected. Could cry. We then spent at least two hours in each other’s company and I even touched him during a conversation. He was friendly but did not get closer on an emotional level. I felt like a wall between us. Later again when we were alone for a while. I think I shouldn’t care about it personally. But I really want him to see me for what I am. That he also finds me beautiful and nice and sweet and that he too feels that pain when we separate. The latter felt his soul, I know that for sure. But his ego goes over it immediately by putting on loud music in the car and smoking a cigarette. Anesthetize anesthetize. ! That is what he constantly does. In all forms. He is afraid of his own inner voice. And I wonder how I can help him with that. Love (A.) I think I shouldn’t care about it personally. But I really want him to see me for what I am. That he also finds me beautiful and nice and sweet and that he too feels that pain when we separate. The latter felt his soul, I know that for sure. But his ego goes over it immediately by putting on loud music in the car and smoking a cigarette. Anesthetize anesthetize. ! That is what he constantly does. In all forms. He is afraid of his own inner voice. And I wonder how I can help him with that. Love (A.) I think I shouldn’t care about it personally. But I really want him to see me for what I am. That he also finds me beautiful and nice and sweet and that he too feels that pain when we separate. The latter felt his soul, I know that for sure. But his ego goes over it immediately by putting on loud music in the car and smoking a cigarette. Anesthetize anesthetize. ! That is what he constantly does. In all forms. He is afraid of his own inner voice. And I wonder how I can help him with that. Love (A.) But his ego goes over it immediately by putting on loud music in the car and smoking a cigarette. Anesthetize anesthetize. ! That is what he constantly does. In all forms. He is afraid of his own inner voice. And I wonder how I can help him with that. Love (A.) But his ego goes over it immediately by putting on loud music in the car and smoking a cigarette. Anesthetize anesthetize. ! That is what he constantly does. In all forms. He is afraid of his own inner voice. And I wonder how I can help him with that. Love (A.)
Answer 3
Dear A: I will be right back. I currently have no words to describe HOW your feelings exactly reflect how I feel in the last days. I think TOO too much about him. I’m very busy with him. Also feel a paralyzing pain of missing. I SO WANT that he also loves me, needs me, wants to talk to me, wants to be with me. So the same feelings and thoughts that you also have. Would more people have it? Does it have to do with time? I don’t know, I’m just happy to know I’m not the only one with these feelings right now. I am comforted that we are in pain together. When…. when…. when…. I ask God and my angels every time … How long do they want us to suffer? Have we not learned enough yet? How are we going to sustain this? When will our twins finally allow their feelings? I see the pain in his eyes (in a very recent photo) and I want to help him SO, but then he must let me help him. Strength and much love from me. (L. (Frederike.eu))
Answer 4
His feeling is my feeling and my feeling is his feeling, right? So, if in my feeling I build up the love, the power and the courage to let the inner voice, the feelings come up to investigate and listen to it, that would help him not to be so afraid anymore (L.)
Answer 5
Dear L, Yes shared smart is half smart, that also applies here. I also draw strength from the fact that I am not the only one who has to go through this. That’s bad, when you see with your own eyes that he is having a hard time, but that he does not yet acknowledge that. My twin is exactly the same, overrides himself in a figurative sense by doing all kinds of things that keep him from looking inside himself and then perhaps coming to surprising conclusions (about us). The frustrating thing is that you are completely on the sidelines, you stand there and look at it. But what you say in your last response is correct I think. It is certainly possible to get him on a different track by sending him as much love, power and other good things as possible. I do that too. And a lot is needed so I will have to hold on for a long time. While feeling so sad yesterday, I went shopping and went into town for a while. And I was then overloaded with characters from my twin. Really a lot and clear. It gave me instant power and a worldly feeling that everything will be fine. So wonderful. But at the moment everything is heavy and difficult. Things feel syrupy slowly. I want to see him again but don’t know when. I am completely dependent on his whims. I know he will be calling shortly to come to visit. I know I got something in him on Sunday. It was almost exactly the same situation as on Boxing Day. Then there was talk of rejecting and putting on all afternoon, and eventually he left quite abruptly, grabbing me and giving me three kisses. It seems as if at a certain moment he no longer knows what he has to do and then wants to leave. I feel his pain so clearly. I have thought about what I would really like to do now, and that is an opportunity to be together, talk without others in it. We never get that chance, and I know from previous experiences that it is so heavenly beautiful, that always gives our contact a huge boost in the right direction. But it seems that everything and everyone is working against us in this regard. I’m going to send that wish into the universe … (do you know the Secret?). Love (A.) But it seems that everything and everyone is working against us in this regard. I’m going to send that wish into the universe … (do you know the Secret?). Love (A.) But it seems that everything and everyone is working against us in this regard. I’m going to send that wish into the universe … (do you know the Secret?). Love (A.)
Answer 6
Reading back, I ended up with this question again, my own. And I saw that I ended with my intention to swing my wish into the universe. Well, that happened and my wish was fulfilled not long afterwards; no less than 4 hours with him alone. We talked and it was nice, nice and cozy and again difficult. I saw some lesser sides of him and I felt repulsed at certain moments. And that process keeps repeating itself. Now again. He just left, and it was just NOT fun. I feel used. He came to eat and immediately left again. During the meal there were a few comments that made me feel angry and sad. Bah, just get ready with that guy. Just then (I think). (Unknown)
Answer 7
The story continues. Yes, still. Almost half a year further now and it continues to attract and repel. I have found that he has certain insights deep down and they came out when he had drunk something. It was amazing. When he has not been drinking, he is less relaxed with me and his ego is troubling him. He then keeps his distance and wants to walk away. As soon as something is drunk, his walls disappear and he says things that are very personal and which gives me a wonderful glimpse into the kitchen. The flip side is that the next contact can be very cool, as if he has realized that he has been far too frank and now has to take a step back. And I? I still send him a lot of love at a distance, ask for dreams about us, that I get almost to order. And I approach him with all the love I have in me. Will always help him and soon there might be an opportunity to talk a little longer together (he under the influence … party) and then we’ll see what comes out of it. I also think it is a shame that it has to be this way, and it cannot be done without alcohol, but it is only then. He apparently has to cope with pain and old. (Unknown)
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I would like to give a new addition to this question that I once asked myself. I have now been over a year further and there have been major developments. It is really true that when you formulate a wish seriously and send it into the universe, it is fulfilled. I asked for more and more intense contact with my twinflame and I got this. In the past year we have come closer together on a spiritual level. He made a sensational statement in August 2011 that proved to me that we know we belong together. In February he pulled me over when a photo was taken and said “come, you have to be there too”. Then he put his arm around me and I put my head on his shoulder. I don’t have to tell how it felt;) In April he asked me something while I was sitting opposite him, and in his sentence the words “I love you” occurred. We looked at each other more or less with a start when he spoke them out, apparently we both felt that those words were meant for me. It was a very strange and beautiful moment. He called me last week and we had a nice chat. After that conversation he sent another sweet text. I was completely happy! And last Saturday (September 2012) I saw him and he talked about people who are in the same situation as us, very specifically. I didn’t understand why he suddenly mentioned that, he talked about it when we were alone for a moment. Later I realized that there was also a bit of despair, it is also a situation that is rather hopeless, we are stuck on all sides, both of them. And now I miss him very much. I so long to disappear in his arms, to drown in his eyes, as often happens when we see each other, to be alone with him. ! I hope that together we will do something like that one time, last year. But I know I have to let it all go, it will come in time. Difficult if you long for someone like that. But at the same time this feeling also gives me wings and energy, the feeling that I live. (Unknown)