Francien

After my twin broke off the relationship with me, we maintained contact in different ways for 4 years. I went through a huge valley. My lesson was not to be dependent on myself and to stay closer to myself. Because of his attracting and repulsive behavior, I have permanently broken the contact. Our last conversation made me realize that he cannot break down his wall yet and denies that he loves me. By maintaining contact with him, he will never see that and will continue to feel good on my energy for a while. And if things go wrong, he decides when he wants to see me again. Because he feels good again, he does not have to think. I no longer want to make my life dependent on him. Unconditional love does not mean that I cannot draw boundaries, of course I can. The other way around, I don’t think he should be dependent on me. That is why letting go is the best solution. I have taken matters back in my hands, it is over & done for me. I am not angry or sad with him. I closed it in a good way. I have now entered a new power phase of myself. This feels good and the road to it is only getting better. Shortly after my decision I notice that my twin non-stop attracts me. As the weeks go by, it only gets worse. It is accompanied by headache, abdominal pain. The stomachache comes from him because he has confirmed this to me. At the craziest times he calls and when I answer the phone hangs up again. I know it is because he is the only one who knows my cell phone number from work. I say there we live about 5 minutes apart. Soon I hope to get a home somewhere else in the country. That I am going to live somewhere else scares him. Every time I feel him standing on the threshold that he wants to talk to me. His ego is quite large and he runs into it every time, because that stops him from love. Who recognizes themselves in my story.

Answer 1
This is a very interesting process that you are now going through. How long have you known each other now? Four years plus a relationship is….? I think it is very strong of you to take this step, I am also very curious about the continuation of your process. The opposite is true for me. My twin has left for another part of the country. He has always seen me cycle past workplace (as a courier) and because of that he was enormously distracted, could not combine that with his work. This is what a medium told me, he himself did not haha! We had no further contact with each other except telepathically. thought it was very sad for a while but that lasted two days. I know intuitively that he, where he now lives and works, can work on a much better basis for our future cooperation, would have been the case if he had stayed here. Perhaps that is also the case with you? That you can now take care of future cooperation much better! and when you each live in a different part of the country (Unknown)

Answer 2
Answer 1: I am the questioner. Thank you for your comment. It is not nothing, twinflame growth. We have had a relationship for 3 years. Due to negative influences from outside, he ended our relationship especially female colleague + children. Shortly after our relationship, he had another behind my back. When I found out, I showed him the door and had to go live with her. He did not let him say this twice and left. Because she lived far away, he had better keep his children at a distance. Much later I decided to go live with a good friend, he went back to his own house and finally broke off the relationship with her and thought I could start working with me again. So no! I looked at his behavior for a moment and slowly but surely I started to get all sorts of insights into how I wanted to be treated. He is far from it. In our last conversation of 3 weeks ago, it suddenly became completely clear to me. He had raised his wall again, in which his narcissistic characteristics once again dominated him, which clashed with my feeling of! n love. I realize that in my process I have to develop the masculine sides more and he his feminine side. It seems like I am not allowed to move yet, I have a strong feeling that I have to finish something, what it is, we will see again. In the meantime I can say for myself that I am extremely proud of myself that I have made this choice, it is a kind of redemption. Have you had a relationship? How far are you in your process? (Unknown) in which his narcissistic characteristics once again dominated him, which clashed with my feeling of! n love. I realize that in my process I have to develop the masculine sides more and he his feminine side. It seems like I am not allowed to move yet, I have a strong feeling that I have to finish something, what it is, we will see again. In the meantime I can say for myself that I am extremely proud of myself that I have made this choice, it is a kind of redemption. Have you had a relationship? How far are you in your process? (Unknown) in which his narcissistic characteristics once again dominated him, which clashed with my feeling of! n love. I realize that in my process I have to develop the masculine sides more and he his feminine side. It seems like I am not allowed to move yet, I have a strong feeling that I have to finish something, what it is, we will see again. In the meantime I can say for myself that I am extremely proud of myself that I have made this choice, it is a kind of redemption. Have you had a relationship? How far are you in your process? (Unknown) we will see what it is again. In the meantime I can say for myself that I am extremely proud of myself that I have made this choice, it is a kind of redemption. Have you had a relationship? How far are you in your process? (Unknown) we will see what it is again. In the meantime I can say for myself that I am extremely proud of myself that I have made this choice, it is a kind of redemption. Have you had a relationship? How far are you in your process? (Unknown)

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Answer 3
Hi Francien. I recognize you very much in your story! But what is an incredibly long time for 4 years to keep in touch, wow … Since my relationship with my twinflame has been broken, now 3 months ago I went through such a huge mourning process, especially because we tried to keep in touch. It is debilitating. Yesterday we decided to break off the contact and a burden fell off my shoulders. I have no idea when you wrote your piece but maybe, if you need it, can we email and tell each other more about our processes? Love (Unknown)