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I have immersed myself in your site because my wife chooses her twinflame and I feel so sad about it, she is also very sad about this but she can no longer do anything else, she says she no longer fits me. I have read in the experiences of partners of a partner who leaves her husband free to join his twinflame, I think that is enormously generous .. but she is left alone and I don’t see it at all .. is it really that in the end you can no longer do anything else because this is (or could be) the goal for twinflames? actually i’m really mad at that twinflame that turns my life upside down.
Answer 1
I understand very well that you are angry, especially if you are in a loving marriage – with / without children – this is very difficult. I have the feeling that there are different twin loves; who are based more on friendly love and who are based on total surrender on all levels. msschn has to do with the phase in which you meet. In the first case you could combine idealism with your marriage, in all openness. perhaps that is also good for marriage. in the other case it is rock hard but you cannot get around each other, you have to come together. even as a twin, it really hurts to let that marriage go and it is better to spend a lot of time on it. but marriage has its purpose, value, just as well as twin love; for the partner of msschn a soul love also comes along or a partner that ultimately fits better. Or your marriage will survive twin love, because it is not yet ready … who will say; strength (unknown)
Answer 2
You do not, in my opinion, make the decision to be with your soul love, which has already been made the moment you encountered him or her! But I can also very well imagine that you are angry with that soul love, because he is the one who messes up your whole life. I met my soul love more than 2 years ago, but he chooses to stay with his wife and that is something I have to live with and what I have to respect, no matter how much it hurts me. I sympathize with you and wish you much wisdom in this difficult situation, but know that your wife does not want to hurt you under any circumstances, but that she cannot do otherwise! (Unknown)
Answer 3
It hurts me that you are saddened by a soul love. Actually, that is not the intention of a twin love. We all have a choice and I don’t believe that the choice is made when you meet that other person. Twinflames also have a choice. Also to choose for their marriage. It depends, just as with ordinary love, how strong and good the marriage was before. If it were, then twinflames will not come together through a broken marriage. I don’t believe in that. Twinflames can also be together without being in a relationship. This sounds more like a strong soulmate attraction. Twinflames are above earthly bonds, therefore they do not break them either. If a marriage is broken by a twinflame love, the concept of twinflame must be considered by both. If your marriage was bad, then it becomes another story. I wish you strength and please keep talking to your wife. I hope she also knows the difference between soulmates and overwhelming crush on twinflame love. Twinflame love is more often NOT romantic than it is. (Unknown)
Answer 4
A violent crush falls over again, but not a twinflame love, it only grows, even if you don’t see each other. Because of this you can change enormously and then you can come to the conclusion that the existing marriage no longer has a life or not enough life because you have grown apart, you are no longer on the same wavelength, (often there is already change in progress before you meet your twinflame) Then you come to a standstill in your marriage. Your soul wants to grow and then that magnetic force can no longer be stopped. Of course I don’t know how that is with your wife, but sometimes twinflames can’t do anything else, no matter how much they hurt. That’s my experience! earthly ties / marriages are there to grow and if you don’t do that anymore, then you stand still or you stop each other and then you have to take the next step, otherwise you will fool everyone, your partner, yourself and your twinflame and you will end up damaging many more people! reed. I understand that you are sad but do you want to continue to live with a woman who would rather be with someone else because she can’t help it? (Unknown)
Answer 5
A violent crush falls over again, but not a twinflame love, it only grows, even if you don’t see each other. Because of this you can change enormously and then you can come to the conclusion that the existing marriage no longer has a life or not enough life because you have grown apart, you are no longer on the same wavelength, (often there is already change in progress before you meet your twinflame) Then you come to a standstill in your marriage. Your soul wants to grow and then that magnetic force can no longer be stopped. Of course I don’t know how that is with your wife, but sometimes twinflames can’t do anything else, no matter how much they hurt. That’s my experience! earthly ties / marriages are there to grow and if you don’t do that anymore, then you stand still or you stop each other and then you have to take the next step, otherwise you will fool everyone, your partner, yourself and your twinflame and you will end up damaging many more people! reed. I understand that you are sad but do you want to continue to live with a woman who would rather be with someone else because she can’t help it? (Unknown)
Answer 6
They are both forms of soul love, but there remains a difference between soulmates and twinflames. If you are not married to a soulmate, and you come across this later, you also want to be with that. And it is also much easier for you to be with that than a twinflame. Soulmate also has all the wonderful aspects of a soul’s love, without the mirror effect. Twinflames, however beautiful that understanding may sound, have little to do with easy romantic happiness, but rather with your spiritual development. It is the ultimate confrontation with yourself. Ultimate light, but also the ultimate dark. If a marriage is over, a marriage is over. Then it does not really matter if there is a ‘normal’ love or a soul love intervenes there. But that twinflames would suddenly be the same as soulmates / soulmates, I tend to disagree. It is not without reason that twinflames have so much trouble getting together. Or stay together. Where are all the stories of successful romantic relationships between twinflames then? And about staying with someone else. (another relationship can also be good, you will not only encounter a twinflame if you are stuck in a bad marriage …) Twinflames more often choose not than their twinflame, again, because of the severity of connection that is sometimes difficult to rhyme with real life. Whether that is sad or unfair, it is just like that. People always suffer, a partner, even if it is not a soul love, that makes someone no less susceptible to sorrow, or what about children ??? Life is not that easy black and white. Many, many shades of gray. It is not always about: twinflame meets twinflame. Stuck in bad marriage. No longer grows spiritually. Other twinflames are free and they are both so evolved that they have absolutely no trouble with the mirror confrontation of their twin. From ordinary, sleek marriage to spiritual speed cooker. And if twinflames come together, then there will always be a wait until the marriage has ended. And then that marriage was also over for twinflames. In all other cases it has to do with other forms of love or soul love. But even then a twinflame love is not a substitute for a marriage. It is not a normal form of romantic love. Although we still want to put it in that box. Only people who are already whole (little) can handle a relationship with their twinflame. That’s just the way it is. Sometimes one is already there and the other is not, sometimes both are not. Rarely both at the same time. Unfortunately. In any case, it is painful when a relationship passes away, whether that is because of a soul’s love, a crush, affair or set your own initiative without anyone else having anything to do with it. You can’t hold someone, life is about letting go. I wish the questioner a lot of strength. (Unknown)
Answer 7
Dear husband of twinflame, I too have some doubts as to whether your egaa has met a twinflame. But if the need is so high among you, do you perhaps imagine that you had a preparatory function for them? Have you not unwittingly prepared your partner for the arrival of her twinflame? IF it is her twinflame of course. My twin his wife clearly has a preparatory function. I will never interfere with that. But I can see it. A twin who thinks: Even if it still takes 20 years, they will figure it out, if she prepares it it will be fine. I am such a twin. Real twins can bring endless patience. (Unknown)
Answer 8
Yes years of patience, until a point has been reached that you have to choose because you cannot continue in a relationship that does not give you what you need. I have chosen for myself and believe me that has been a difficult decision, That’s why I think your wife is sad. you also strength with your anger / sorrow. (Unknown)
Answer 9
Brings us to the question who can be more patient, the half of the soul who is in a relationship or (as is applicable to me) the person who is not in a relationship … The person without a relationship does not of course have the energy of another around him what might be less tiring / confronting in daily life, I don’t know, would it be fifty-fifty? If I read the stories and reactions like this, I still think that the meter will go to those who are in a relationship that they can produce less patience. (Unknown)
Answer 10
I think patience also has to do with character. and that every relationship should be respectful. if you don’t pay, it makes no sense. it can pop once in a while but there must be respect. feeling a twin is so obvious, being patient is usually logical. you, as a partner of…. have respect for your partner and make sure that they also respect you. you deserve that msschn even more! (Unknown)
Answer 11
Impatience is the same in both cases. If you are alone then that is easy, because you do not have to imagine anything else than you are and that is a wonderful feeling of freedom. You may have feelings, but you can do so little to your twinflame and I think that whether you are in a relationship or if you are alone, makes you impatient. yes, is it impatience, (with perhaps a little uncertainty) or is it desire? (Unknown)
Answer 12
Dear stranger, I agree that true twins can have infinite patience. But I wonder if that is easier when you are alone. That can sometimes make you desperate. A relationship / marriage can be very distracting and does not always have to be bad. Moreover, I think it is not a matter of being able to. There is no choice in this. I don’t want to wait anymore. I’ve had enough. But somewhere I have no choice. I have waited way too long, and the fact that there is something in me somewhere. No, no choice. And that is difficult. And that in turn is an understatement. Yet I choose for myself. Endless waiting does not always bear the fruits that your heart has in mind. (Unknown)
Answer 13
Yes, because the person who is still in a relationship is more patient than the person who is alone, because if he / she would be impatient, he / she would have left that relationship a long time ago. but sometimes I also think; find out, my life is beautiful and it might be okay.Wait what? all fear of .. ?? (Unknown)
Answer 14
Dear stranger, I don’t think you’ve waited too long; that all makes sense. if you feel that you have no choice, I think you are already far. it doesn’t matter if you have a partner or not. it is sometimes lonely anyway. I think that if you can mirror in one way or another with your twin in this phase it becomes clear, what you want, feel … together; only then is there anything to choose (Unknown)
Answer 15
Waiting (weighing and weighing) is indeed useful for a while, but for the previous writer; NO do not place the responsibility for choosing with the twin, that is not fair. I too had no choice at the end. Although I really loved my partner, all of that no longer felt good, not fair, no matter how much it does and there are still warm feelings. It is difficult but it is no different. before, going further or staying as you are used to, you have to make that yourself, nobody can help you with that! Both choices are difficult, I know, because you don’t want to hurt anyone. My dear twin once said to me; “I can’t help you with that!” And that’s how it is! What do you want in your heart? … that is all you have to listen to and when I read your answer like this you have already made your choice! (Unknown)
Answer 16
Dear stranger, in life you only have to die one thing as soon as you are dr and that will hopefully last a very long time. furthermore, you do not have to choose nix (in my case, one more thing, look after children), so you don’t have to, of course if you want it. it is a gift a soul love, even if you are in a relationship. You choose in different ways and that is a good thing. has to do with respect. I have long since chosen to open my 6th sense, to live in twinflame love, I enjoy it and I am saddened by it, whatever I wear in my own way. I am very surprised and sincere about it. sometimes confused, sometimes clear, hopeful, full of confidence. with my twin I have a very satisfying spiritual bond that reinforces this. I support him in everything, with love. (Unknown)
Answer 17
I feel a lot of pressure in this discussion about … choosing. that would almost make me feel spanish. in such a fierce spiritual awakening / development that choosing comes naturally to me; 1 thing is important, the one soul must be able to continue to develop. in my eyes it doesn’t matter what your situation is; that’s just your starting point. hence you have to do it alone / with others with your twin without your twin…. I think if you continue from there it becomes clear what the road looks like, you just have to learn to listen to yourself, your soul. at least you make good choices, with your soul! work on yourself, with the twin-love-power, be sober earthy / am confused and overwhelmed, afraid, ego-focused, meditate, am spiritual, enlightened have well-no sex at all levels ; make mistakes, lose it all again, does not make a damn. there is always that one warm soul again. just love with your one soul give and take. trust it. am a. (unknown)
Answer 18
Choosing that also makes you anxious, that’s the fear of the unknown, fear of doing it well or not? that is the mountain that you have to take if you feel that you no longer have a choice. I had a song in my head at that time when I had to choose; “stay where you are and don’t move, hold your breath and don’t choke.” Well I can tell you that it really makes you feel anxious, staying where you are. don’t you choose? Do you want the middle and both ends? also a choice, but whether your twin can / wants to participate? I would say ask him / her, you will automatically get a clear answer! this love? fight for it, I once read, but do it yourself! (Unknown)
Answer 19
What I wonder; why do we get stuck in a situation that is no longer fair to anyone? how honest you are in your feelings to your partner if you love someone else more, you also allow that other person a full relationship. I see so many people here who dare not because they are afraid to hurt another, but what is fair? what hurts more? this love there is no fighting, believe me I have been doing that for so long, your emotional flow will catch you once you get tired enough! (Unknown)
Answer 20
I can tell you from my own experience that no matter how good you want to be for your partner and how much you love them, it is in you. Meeting a twinflame is so extremely intense and if you have never experienced it, you cannot imagine it. But the love of your wife is not gone for you, only it is totally different than for the twinflame. The difference is this: You love your partner with your heart, your twinflame with your soul. It absolutely does not replace each other. That’s why most people have so much trouble with it. If you no longer loved your partner, it would be very easy to continue. It is difficult because it is totally different types of love. Just like love for your parents, for example, you love both in different ways. It is choosing between heart (where soul is separate from it) and soul (but soul also affects the heart). A soul lover, however, is so strong and intense and goes through your heart and soul and your entire body. It is truly a kind of sacred love that you experience as a belief for a person with whom you feel incredibly connected. (If, for example, they are sad, then you are also sad, etc.) If you do not choose your twinflame, it will continue to torture you for life. And you know why you never get over it … because you feel that person constantly. You feel a kind of ecstasy which is then the love between you. You can never grow over it. I can imagine how difficult it is to have to give up the person (your wife) you love so much. But try to understand how lucky she is, and that is something that belongs to her and she can never let that go. You can never be so happy in your heart and never get rest until you reach that person. Some say they are, because they are not ready, but I do not believe in it. See it as something that is innate. It belongs to that person and no matter how tough it is, if you accept that and are happy for her (because it is very extremely special to be able to experience this) you will once again find happiness, and perhaps also a soul love if you are ready for it are. I think it’s so sweet of you that you even take the trouble to find out what this means. Many people don’t understand, which makes it even more difficult for us. And we have a very difficult time with the dilemmas and the good feelings. If I don’t choose my twinflame, then I will be unhappy forever deep in my heart, but I love my partner very much. All my partner is a beautiful hotel room where I stay, but it will never feel like coming home (what I feel with my twinflame). As soon as you try to empathize with what kind of feeling it is and that it defines you so 100%, you understand that your partner loves you, but cannot let her half go, because otherwise she will always be empty inside. It is not what we choose, but it is WHO WE ARE from within! The other half, and if we are strong enough and ready, we will always choose the twinflame. We cannot deny that, as much as we would like sometimes, not to hurt the partners and leave them alone. It goes against everything, against our heart and soul and body and mind and mind and feeling. It is so much tearing apart that we cannot even control it. We have to be with them! Give it to her and be happy for her, that would mean so much to someone in her position. And know that you are not alone, you also have a twinflame somewhere and it is with you. If you look into your eyes long and deep in the mirror, you see the eyes (the look) of your twinflame. And if your strong love in your heart feels like you should be somewhere else now where there really is THE place for you, then you feel your twinflame somewhere. Remember that you do not lose in this. This is also YOUR growth process. This brings you closer to your goal, and when the time is right, you will be amazed by your feelings for this twinflame. And if not then you know that you have given your wife such a wonderful gift of acceptance and forgiveness and to be able to experience a heavenly love on a totally different level, just like a fairy tale. Be proud of yourself! Who does well
Answer 21
And every time you fall back in the sadness that you put on your partner when you choose your twin .. find it really hurt that you do it to someone else … without you wanting it, just because you are on the last can no longer be different .. it is mourning a relationship that really has been good but otherwise .. no one wants to hurt and yet I do it this way … that is difficult .. sad .. heartbreaking. (Unknown )
Answer 22
What strikes me is that there is sooo romantic about the soul love win .. Nothing is less true when I talk for myself but also my twin. Dear Unknown who is angry and rightly so in my option. You can be angry, stamping your feet but you don’t close what kind of talking to each other. Keep talking. Having a twin does not mean that a marriage is over. Wondering if it is a twin or not? Love is different than being in love. (Unknown)