Daan
Just a question? I have already asked a number of questions but I am not getting much further. But I can’t do it like this, if only I had never met him in my life and I really mean that. Now my question, is there a way that I can break the bond with my soul love but then really break it? I want to feel this way as before, because I would rather not feel complete than that I feel pain and torn apart, how can I permanently break that bond because this is not a life like that. If someone knows the answer for me then I would love to hear it, Greetings
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I know your story completely, I also think I would have never encountered it, while they here on the site say that it is so great and educational you can learn so much from it, I have not really experienced what I do experience is pain and sorrow, heartbreaking and it has totally changed my life I have become a different person. I have met my soul love, fantastic indeed the most beautiful thing you can ever experience, but then releasing that is the most painful thing you can experience in my opinion. I also still grieve after years, no other man in my life can be admitted, but my soul love was always with me. I sometimes wonder how to proceed, sometimes very difficult, but I think it is not possible to let go after years of being given a place, I do not know I also think I would have never met him, but then again I would never have experienced that fantastic deepest feeling of love. I now try to cherish the beautiful feeling and not to push it away, because that is not possible, cherishing the deepest love feeling of my soul love gives me a bit of peace, it may be there. A lot of strength because I know what hell you’re going through. (Unknown)
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I have a question for Daan? Do you want to break revenge with him because he doesn’t want to be open to you? (Unknown)
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Why is he so afraid of your love? You hear more often that men or women walk away for this love. Do they not dare to face the turbulence? Afraid to get to know his true “me”? That can indeed be very intense. Unfortunately he never experiences who he really is, and how super beautiful this love can be. (Unknown)
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It is a lesson that you ‘get’ in your life and where you can get everything out of which you can become a better person. My tip is: Don’t resist it. Go with the flow. If you can experience your soul love, enjoy it 1000%, it is so beautiful. don’t shy away from your soul love, it can have a big meaning in your life. (Rolf)
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No I do not want to break revenge with him, but I want to break with him forever because I cannot live with the pain I feel, but also the pain he feels, the sadness I feel, but also the sadness he feels , the emptiness that I feel, but also the emptiness that he feels, I feel what he feels all day long, and I can’t stand that, I can read his own thoughts, this is so weird so intolerant. The more distance he tries to take, the greater my love and feeling for him becomes, that letting go of what they are talking about here does not exist at all because you cannot let go of yourself that is impossible, and revenge, no that is impossible because how can you you take revenge on yourself, friends are family, everyone says; he has lost himself and that is how he lives now and that is how I live, little by little I feel my heart and soul die and his too well so I asked here who can tell me how I could break with him forever because to have to feel all day how you die little by little, nobody can do that I will tell you something about it, our children, his eldest son almost 18 and my oldest daughter almost 16, everyone but then everyone asks if they are brother and sister, these children have almost the same appearance the same build, the same line of thought, yes even grandma and grandpa who looked weird and said this is almost impossible. Rara how is this possible, these children are from 4 different parents but could have been twins. This is strange, very strange, the bond with his eldest son is the same as mother and child tell me how is this possible? (Daan)
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Yet I do not fully understand your connection. You come together over the floor? Both married? Children as you write. Maybe he finds it difficult because his family cannot have a relationship with you? You have to talk, talk, look for a solution, because deep down in your heart you know yourself, that breaking will never succeed with your soul love. Why are you both so empty and gloomy when you see each other often? Most here are sad that the other has run away. But you have contact? (Rolf)
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DISTANCE only separates the bodies, NOT THE SPIRITS. Spiritually you always stay connected. (Ruud)
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Dear Rolf we both have no relationship with another, but we have had each other but he cannot handle that I am his soul love and maybe more than that, after 3 years he can not stand it even though it is so beautiful he says, he seems scared and now runs away very fast for himself and me, talking to him does not help because he knows what will be said, this is what he was always afraid of, he says and now he cannot more against, not against our relationship but also not against not being together but what is so strange, he cannot do without me, he says, well tell me what to do with that, everyone around us says that we are together again come because that is our destiny, but he opposes it with all his might, because he is afraid he says that he will one day lose me rather than now, rather than later,he doesn’t want to see me anymore and he can’t speak anymore, because he can’t stand that, yes, and those children, his son and my daughter could have been twins, even we don’t understand anything, really that likeness and their behavior and way of thinking, Greetings Daan. (Daan)
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My tip is to both seek help (therapy is no longer a taboo) or if you are sure that you are twinflames you might be able to look for someone who can advise you in this. I do not know exactly where to go (with a spiritual coach?) He cannot do without you, but also with you, maybe someone else on this site recognized this? I think he still has too many blockages with him that need to be processed. (Rolf)
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I have rejected my soul love because he asked me time and I did not understand why, we got an argument with each other and I offended him and I made it pretty difficult. But my question is; that pain that emptiness that I feel with me, but I also feel it from him, how is this possible? Will it ever pass if we no longer meet and why do I feel that double pain and why feel in his presence even though he is not with me. Why does this so terribly hurt my heart and soul? I have never experienced this before, I feel torn apart. If someone has an answer to my question; please tell me. (Zane)
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Daan I see that you have written a piece before. (THIS PIECE ABOVE) Why did you reject him? Even though he asked you time? Isn’t that why he is scared, Fearful of losing your WEATHER ??? (Rolf) Dear Zane and Rolf; maybe you should exchange contact details so that you can correspond together. This place is intended for less extensive communication. (editorial)
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Even though you move to Australia, that bond can never be broken. You share deep love but also high hills that you have to go through together. (Unknown)
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Dear Daan, how awful for you. Of course I cannot quite imagine how you feel, but I do know that you know what is going on in your twinflame, and it must be terrible if you have to feel the pain of you together because he cannot cope with your love. Whether you can break the relationship? It sounds terrible, but I agree with other responses that this is probably not possible because it is a relationship that has always been there and has now entered your consciousness. The only thing I can come up with is: try to pray for him in whatever way you do. Send him roses in thought, dry his tears, send him all the love you have in you, send him, in thought, all the healing love you can come up with in any form you can come up with. And accept the pain associated with this form of love. That sounds absurd, but the moment you accept your pain (and with it the sickness) as something that belongs to your love, it changes very slowly but certainly into a kind of “sweetness”, while not fighting every fight against it. only has to lose, but all that resistance also causes your pain (and therefore his; your emotions are now interwoven) to turn into hellish pains instead of that heavenly sweetness. I can assure you that nothing can happen to you that you cannot bear; don’t despair. For your part, cry your eyes out of your head, but don’t despair; you really do not get a bigger burden than your back can carry. (Simone) Answer If I long for my Soulmate, he immediately reflects me that I have to find my love for myself again. Beware the place. If I do this, then everything will be one and complete again! (Unknown) Answer I would like to ask Daan what is happening now? And whether she would like to exchange mail. To someone who is experiencing exactly the same. (Unknown) Response Thank you for your responses to my question, I have decided to try to break the bond with my soul love completely. I see whether I succeed or not, but I have to try to do this otherwise it will not be possible to go for it, after not having been with him for such a long time, I can still smell him, I can still feel him , I can still taste him, I can still hear him, he is constantly present even though he is not here with me. I do not sleep at night, I do not function well during the day because I feel him with me and I know what he is doing, I even feel when he goes to sleep and gets up, no this is not a life and I no longer want to feel and smell and hear him etc. etc. All I want is to live, yes to live in peace. Someone has confirmed to me that he is my soul love and that I cannot let go of him, well then I will prove to the contrary whatever it will cost because I want peace and life as I met him, rather half a soul then no soul at all. (Daan)
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Daan, I recognize a lot in your story. My twinflame and I also feel each other all day long. He knows when I eat, sleep, work, be with a friend, I have been in the sauna, etc. etc. We even make love at a distance. I feel when he cycles etc. This has been going on for 5 years now. I enjoyed it very much, and now I think it should go on like this. We have not had a physical relationship. Even very little talked to each other. I have been to a psychiatrist, but he could not help me any further, he was chattering. I have now reached a point where I do not know what to do with it. I am not yet as far as you, that I want to let him go. But questions remain, if; why should it go this way and we cannot have a normal happy relationship. I did astrology training and made a relationship horoscope from us. This is a tip if you know his birth time and place. It came to us! very clear that there is a fusion, but that everyone has to go our own way. (bale, bale) Communication in a normal way seems impossible with us. This is indicated in the horoscope as frustration in communication. I feel that too. I would not know how and what we should talk to each other, too scary. Perhaps that is an idea to look into a relationship horoscope. I want to make it for you. I hold on to it, because otherwise I don’t know either. Finally a story of recognition. Nobody understands me. You are the only one now who has the same twinflame as me. (Sounds pathetic) I felt very lonely there lately. The strange thing is that I only dare to talk about it now. Something changes as a result, perhaps it is acceptance that things will not change anyway. I want to wish you a lot of strength, unfortunately I don’t have a ready-made solution for you, but want to break it? …………. You feel and think the same. I do not know if you can break such a relationship. I wonder. It is contact on an energetic level, on a subtle level and that has a higher vibration, that ensures that you have remote contact, and you are a / together. As if you are locked. It is in the air, so to speak. From your story I get that you are really fed up with it. I suspect that talking does not help. If the worse comes back you are destined for each other in this way. You probably have a problem to solve together, or search for that. Good luck and I hope you find a solution. (Gabrielle)
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That you feel this way has to do with your ego. If you are very deep in your feeling, you do not have this pain either. You have a number of things in you that you have to work on. Letting go of your twinflame will not work. Accept that his feeling is in you. As I read it, you are not ready yet. learn to feel with your feeling instead of your ego ‘I want’. (Unknown)